I initially wanted to block the people who hurt me deeply but I thought that they will then talk about it with glee and say good riddance to me as they have not blocked me despite my initial sly posts pertaining to them. So instead, I ghost them. It was hard at first because of the strong pull to check on them (which I initially did). Then as days…
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This morning I woke up from a dream with you in it, memory is a little bitch.
Benjamin P. Hardy was the first Medium writer who reeled me in with this post about self acceptance…
Along with 75% of my friends, I turned forty this year. From what I can tell so far…
I always thought that I would have just one great love in my life. I thought I would…
‘STOP THE STIGMA’ MENTAL WELLNESS TEAM
It’s been almost 20 years since I graduated from a catholic all girls high school. Back then I wasn’t doing much besides studying and thinking about boys. I didn’t…
Dear Lilly and Lana,
I know you are reclusive, avoid press, and would rather that this brutal invasion of your private lives that has forced the two of you out of the closet over a decade had simply…
We all live the best version of our lives through Facebook, carefully curating our everyday so we present our best…
I keep on hearing quite a few people complaining about how they are unhappy at their workplace. The reason could be compensation, politics at work, not enough personal growth, traveling distance etc. Whatever the reason be, what I don’t understand is why do people keep…
I’m tired.
I’m tired of perpetually worrying about how people perceive me. I’m tired of making decisions based on my projection of how it will be received. I’m…
**Trigger warning- This is not a rant. The article in no ways endorses group travel or traveling with someone as a better way of travel over solo travel. It is just a personal reflection on different ways of travel and urging readers to choose a style of…
Spring is officially here!
A few years back, I felt my life starting to go into a tailspin. Every day seemed to blend into the last one, and I didn’t see myself changing or growing as a person. Every choice I made boiled down to where I was…
Have you ever been on the phone with a customer service rep who sounds like they’re…
Tips on How to Conquer Any Challenge
“I don’t think my intelligence comes across very well because I’m a slow learner and I’m constantly wrong about…
ISB taught me a lot. But I don’t remember much of the classes.
Michigan State changed my life. And I aced the exams too. Wouldn’t be able to reproduce anything from the classes today, if I had to.
Today I got fired. I wasn’t without blame. I called out without a lot of notice and expressed how much I disliked being a server. I was having relationship issues, but that’s not a reason to call out. It is however a reason when you are already dissatisfied. After months of convincing myself that I am not better than those who came before me finding…
Here is a quote that has stuck with me since the moment I read it:
“I believe we can change the world if we start listening to one another again. Simple, honest, human conversation. Not mediation, negotiation, problem-solving, debate or public meetings. Simple, truthful…
Your story matters because it is the only truth that you know. You can only speak from two things: your…
I recently came across a post on Medium that Wil Wheaton wrote. I hadn't heard the name before, but a quick Google told me that he was Wes in Star Trek the Next Generation and he also appears in the Big Bang Theory.
There was no yellow brick road.
I did not find him in the forest, eyes stuck, oil-less on the in-step; I never saw him. I heard him.
And, when this occurred, my body shifted. Something moved that I could not halt, and my…
As I grow older and increasingly aware of time passing and experiences slipping by, I quietly grapple more and more with my inner Rebellious Teenager (RT). She’s stubborn and petulant and just does not want to be uncomfortable in any way. She wants to spend all her time relaxing, lazing around and eating all the…
I think that life can be seen as a multitude of separate natures. A thing is only itself, and its “self” can be of a sort that must, by natural law, act upon the “self” of another thing, influencing it in ways that can be positive or…
At 11 pounds, 12 ounces I entered this world bigger than everyone else.
My mother says the lady beside her had twins that weighted less than me combined.
She birthed me naturally. A birth so natural that they broke my right clavicle just to get…
As one of my previous bosses would tell you, I am one of the most “self-actualized” people you may ever work with. I see my weaknesses, like most people (well, like most women, at least), but I’m also quite capable of seeing my strengths. The most relevant use of this…
You always have to write a motivation letter when applying for a job. What if I were applying for my own job, as in working for myself. Why do I think I’m suitable for my own job and what are the characteristics…
Engineering life is almost over. Just one more exam to go and then everything is going to be different! The four years of Engineering were simply great. I don’t know about the technical knowledge we gained, but the journey was definitely memorable!! Throughout these four years, we were so busy…
A habit is a routine, a practice or a custom. It is formed by a continuous and repetitive action. Often this pattern of behavior which we have unconsciously inculcated in our lives is difficult to get rid of. And so whether you make a good habit or a bad one, you do…
This might be the last we see of Gamer Gabe for a while. http://www.dieselsweeties.com/ics/40/
Or why I am taking creative control of my “educational” record.
Dear Academia,It’s not me- it’s you. This has been a long time coming, and we both knew it. Maybe I missed some…
He dropped by, and into my heart’s empty space for just a while; brought a smile and an unexpected excitement to my day. We sat and talked and laughed, so honest and refreshing. We watched each other, read each other, isolated and fixed. We grew curious and playful with a tension, longing, lingering; and I’m…
I’m coming up on 30 and I know that’s the time when we all like to get reflective. Not sure what it is about this seemingly magical year that we decide our lives have now been long enough that we have real wisdom to share, but damnit I’ve read some books and stuff. Get ready for some truth.
I fell in love with music when I first heard “Green Hill Zone” from Sonic The Hedgehog. I had to be…
What are the non-negotiable conditions for your happiness and well-being? What…
As I’m about to turn my life as I know it upside down, One thing I’ve been thinking deeply about lately is the idea of personal change.
Over the past few years, after my daughter became seriously ill and then made a full…
“I like your accent.”
“You have nice eyes.”
“You seem really smart.”
No, she doesn’t. She seems dumb as a rock, and I’m just about ready to say so. We freshmen have had group-building exercises all morning, with pizza vouchers…
Everyone seems to be intent on reminding me that I’m turning thirty in a few days…
I try to ignore it. But every time they (my housemates/friends) go out and left me alone in this house, I can feel it in my bone and deep in my heart. A little piece of my heart dies. I’m in denial. I want to repress this feelings. I acknowledge that I’m alone, and yes I’m really lonely. But, I don’t want to…
I live a certain wayI love a certain wayIf you can’t see my loveGet away, get away
I look a certain wayMy heart beats a certain wayI didn’t choose this formBut, I intend to live this way.
I was talking to a friend the other day and they said cause you don’t DGAF and I was like what’s that? You…
They say motherhood is the most rewarding experience of this life journey. The wise sisters pull you…
The meaning of life is something no one may truly ever know. However finding inspiration from the wisdom learned in life can help to increase your lifespan and make your time living more enjoyable.
Let’s face it, we humans are an emotional bunch. And no matter how cool we want to sound, by calling ourselves…
It’s that time of year. Sigh. I have an idea brewing to address this time of year, and it goes a little something like this:
I’m going to start a club for people like us, people who’ve lost their moms. We will have our annual meeting on…
After months of preparation, 48 hours of travel time and 24 hours of residence in Germany. I’m ready to open the doors of wisdom for you. Ha.
But seriously, I have been reflecting on the nature of big life change type situations. And here…
Whether it’s at home, in the workplace, or in society, culture is an important part of a…
In 5 years I’ll be able to look back and say I did everything I could and then some… then it’d be something to look back and laugh about… or the little piece of relief.
I found out tonight that she’s begun a drug habit.
Yes, I feel it’s good to be emotional.
Never realized when crying became a sign of weakness. Or when the materialistic dreams became more important than an emotional self. Crying suggests that we are present in this moment and beholds strong human connections which…
It’s 19.58pm on a nondescript Tuesday in April. Nothing out of the ordinary has happened today. I’ve…
A couple of months into the dating scene, freshly cut loose from a failed but important…
Well shit. When I heard these words from my fancy boarding school’s Headmaster, the first thing I thought of was #riptomylife. Of course I was totally…
‘As long as we are alive, we have the opportunity to continue to challenge the “ism” that shape the contours of injustice and are the terrain of at the edge of the community, keeping him from a long bus trip and walk home after practices.’ (pg.63) Glass is telling us that we have to take a stand, every time…
All my life I’ve been afraid.
Of what?
29 April 2016
I am an old lady. I am quite happy to be an old lady as that is the stage that I have reached in life and personally I wouldn't want to be at any other stage. This is possibly because my philosophical beliefs mean that I view all life as souls incarnated into bodies either as plants, animals or humans. We…
Like a real fraud. With the exception of a very old, dusty English degree I begged and pleaded the University of Minnesota to give me after a very strange college “career,” I have no formal training, no impressive freelance writing page on my blog with hundreds of bylines. The The New…
“I want to top your expectations. I want to blow you away.”
-Quentin Tarantino
I couldn’t have said it better myself. If you tossed me in an AA-style meeting, I would stand up in front of the whole crowd to announce, “My name is Caroline Hurst, and I am a…
Dream big, but act fucking bigger. And then take action towards that dream, instead of acting small.
Fuck everyone else. This life is about you, and your dreams. Thanks Jon, for reminding us to be kids again, to dream big but dare to dream even bigger every single day.
I’ll start this out by letting you know I was being interviewed for a Podcast the other night.
Yes, your first thought is probably the same as mine … if someone paid Chuck $1 every time he was interviewed for a Podcast, he’d now be up to $1.
I’ve also left the law (and more recently my home city) and don’t plan on going back to the firm stuff. I was good at it too. But I also disliked the monotony of it.
My friends always ask me why have the degree and maintain a license if I don’t want to really do it anymore. The answer is simple, I’d do it again, debt and…
365 Daily Meditations For The Here And Now
Why wait for a reasons to laugh? Life as it is should be reason enough to laugh. It is so absurd, It is so ridiculous. It is so beautiful, so wonderful! It is all sorts of things together. It is a great cosmic joke.
This whole “30 man hours” and “what if you’re just twiddling comments 1x/day for 3 years” comments shows an honest lack of compassion for the people you hire. You, Eric, are not brave writing this post. You just sounds like an un-caring manager, who doesn’t have the time to think about the people you hire as anything more than a resource.
Find your Passion:
I emailed and talked to 4 people in my network and tried find their life purpose, these people are:
1) Azhar Iqbal (brother)
2) Atif Qayyum (Classmate)
3) Nouman Tariq (Classmate)
This is sort of going off the point somewhat with what I’m about to say (actually it’s going way way off point) and I’m…
The original idea behind the Phoenix Farewell Tour was that I could visit all my favorite places “one last time” before…
How well is your ability to discern when things are about to shift in life or when things are going in another direction…
I found this quote about 15 years ago during a difficult time in my life, and I have kept it with me ever since.
Do you know that it’s possible to open your mind? Are you aware that there are…
Alone he sits there..
Empty and Cold..!
Light Beckons him..
at timesi relishthe tasteof my pride
i knowit’s nogood for me
but thatdoesn’t alwaysbar…
Public Speaking is a skill, an art and method that can transform you and the audience IF done well. Here’s…
I thought coming out to my parents was the hardest thing I would ever confess to them. At the time it felt like I was letting them down with this…
Three days ago, I was thinking about what helps me to do my best even when I feel like I can’t, so I wanted to share.
Persistence. Plain and simple. Every day is different, so your best on one day, may not be your best on another. That does not mean you have to do away with your…
Sorry At the diner last night, as we were leaving a group of women looked at me and one yelled out "Illll!" I kept walking hoping that she tasted something nasty but.... So today, I’m obviously still in remembrance of that. For some reason, I always remember the bad things and I guess that it’s written all over my face because he asks me "What’s…
Time bomb
The human body – a walking time bomb in our fragile and temporary forms. Our internal organs covered with only a layer of skin, are penetrable by…
Is it okay to let go, and leave it to fate or destiny?
I’m addicted to multitasking. If I could only write that important email while I draft this article. Shop on Amazon while I’m on a call. Prep for a meeting on the car ride over. Listen to music while reading. Always wanting to do more, at the same time. But more and more research…
It is so easy to get wrapped up in the day to day trappings of life; jobs and errands and to do lists and self-importance…
I grew up as a diligent student and obedient child. Not to brag, I was even called the father’s “good” daughter who could never break dishes. But as I grow older, I became mediocre. I don’t pursue things the way I did when I was younger. I tend to be “easy-going” kid. Maybe because of…
Negative energy can be found almost everywhere. There are people complaining about life constantly, practicing bad habits and bringing you down. The emotions they spread influence your thoughts…
“แทบทุกเย็น เมื่อฉันกลับถึงบ้าน พื้นซีเมนต์หลังบ้านจะมีรอยเปียกน้ำเสมอ ซึ่งนั่นแปลว่าค่ำนี้เธอลงมารดน้ำต้นไม้แล้ว แต่จากนี้ต่อไป…
Jason, as a innocent in that situation I have a lot of empathy for you.
I would caution not to put too much faith in the mouth agape, you-are-so-normal, reactions. It is likely as not that the expression is as much to cover up their own sordid family history as it is in marvelling in you being “normal” whatever normal is.
“Can I just ask you a question?”
“Sorry, just need to grab this.”
“Just stepping out for lunch.”
“Just wanted to check in…”
What if? What if I don’t succeed in life? What if I’m not happy? What if it goes all wrong? What if it’s a waste of time? What if?
These are all questions that many have asked themselves. It is something that I’ve asked myself several times for many different things. It isn’t just a…
Thank you thank you thank you for saying that thing about positive thinking because I have been doing that ever since I read “The secret” so many years ago, and I’ve been so afraid to stop the power of positive thinking thing ,I thought lightning strike me in the freaking head ! So, thank you for this beautiful article thank you!!!Kat
This is exactly what I needed to hear as I’m nearing graduation. Thank you.
A line of love,
What do you visualize when you think of a depressed person? Is it a sad-looking person who always gloats and hates the world? Do they wear dark, wrinkled clothes; apparently not caring how they look anymore? Are they the “loners” who nobody knows anyways?
I’ve thought about how much of a loaded question this can be myself!
Often times I’ve asked someone new to tell me about them and you get the usual:
I’m originally from ____, my parents divorced when I was 9, I love horses…
Carta aos meus companheiros de 20 e poucos anos.
Quando crianças aprendemos que podemos ser o que quisermos, que o mundo nos apresenta infinita possibilidades e só temos que ter coragem de aproveitá-las. Então passamos o nosso tempo de escola pensando no que iremos fazer quando crescermos, o que iremos ser, quem iremos ser…
Tomorrow is the last day, people. I am not leaving this place. I refuse. I mean, where else will I get minced met for free (no pun intended)? The guys serving us food were not friendly at all. I eat a lot. They refused to add me some more French fries! My neighbor had a…
Thank you James, for your generosity in not only writing, but sharing this post. It is the best blueprint, handbook, guide — call it what you will —for breaking free from corporate shackles. You have hit the nail on the head that debt — student loans, mortgages, even maintaining a lifestyle—binds us to jobs like handcuffs. And self-esteem…
BEING GRATEFUL
Every so often, I am reminded about being grateful. As a child, I had it hammered into me: thank you letters for presents, thank you’s for anything given to me or done for me, because it was the polite thing to do. It took years for me to recognise gratitude for what it really is: not politeness, but…
10 Amazing Facts of People Born In August
People born in August walk in the light! They have some amazing qualities that make them such outstanding personalities. Not only are they good in looks but have a very magnetic personality. They are popular for that straightforward demeanor that can shock people sometimes. Following…
Socializing Is Hard
Socializing is hard.
Socializing with strangers is really hard if you actually think about it. Having the right facial expression and timed reaction when someone’s telling you something they really care about and meanwhile you could be thinking about what you’re having for dinner…
So today is officially my first day out in the field I am so nervous it’s not even funny I don’t know why I’m nervous I’ve been doing this job for so long but I don’t know if it’s because my supervisor is shadowing me for the freaking day or what but I’m like super super nervous like I…
Allow Chicago Strippers To Enhance The Enjoyment And Fun Your Party
Are you organizing a party for all your friends and want it to be a memorable and exciting event for all? You must hire some experienced strippers to add some extra fun in the party. It is the best way of enjoying party for boys because some sexy models will…
I’m just gonna come right out and say it:
I’m a diva, a queen, a VIFuckingP and I want the best, only the best, the first class LUXURY experience and…
When I was student I was constantly stressed and not stressed at the same time, I’m sure other students will be able to relate. You will stress about a big test, but go for a beer anyway. Now that my student days are something of the past, there are 9 things…
“Your faith is weak,
You listen to the world’s reasons.
That’s an amazing perspective…
For almost a year up until now I wasn’t doing much cos I didn’t know where to start. I was trying to decide and declare my “passion” and do something with it cos I thought that’s a great way to live life.. I thought I wanted to start living life only after I found my passion. I couldn’t make my…
We all know that feeling. The feeling that everything you say is falling on deaf ears. You know your ideas are sound, your logic is pure, and yet your message falls flat. You are met with disagreement, criticism…
I decided to write this piece a few days ago, when five minutes into a run — BOOM — I twisted my ankle, fell to the ground…
“I hate you.” “You disgust me.” “you’re a failure.” “You are not good at anything.” “I hate my life”, “I wish I would die” These are some of the words I tell myself multiple times a day, sometimes while staring in the mirror, mostly these words are being repeated like a mantra…
I am so very sorry that you went through that. But, on the other hand, What you have gone through has made you who you are today. Im very happy to hear that in growing up, you CHOSE to have a normal life. You are strong person and have much to offer the world.
The biggest factor in the shape your day is about to take, depends on the amount of positivity you put into your morning.
Letter to my fellow 20-somethings.
When children learn that we can be what we want, that the world has infinite possibilities and we just have to have the courage to seize them. So we spend our school days thinking about what we will do when we grow up, what will be, who will be. It is the first time…
As part of my mental health journey, I’ve been required to make some tough decisions for myself. Here’s a list of things that I’ve been trying to keep in mind while struggling through this difficult time in my life. Who knows, maybe one of these techniques will work for you?
Living a life of purpose ACT # 2
I contacted about 10 of my acquaintances. And received only response from a few of friends and family
Faisal:
I want to follow the teaching of Islam. To help others who deserve and become a person who is useful for the society. To eliminate…
It’s almost the end of the day. You have one or two more things to do before you can go call it a day…but you lack the motivation or energy to get it done.
I have a pretty broken family. My brother has autism and both my…
Good tips. I’ve been using Excel easily over 10 years now and find it indispensable on smaller projects and use Access for large sets of data. I didn’t think that there was such a large disparity in those that don’t use excel. It’s part of what I do on a day-to-day basis and it’s been out for years that I forget that most people don’t even know the…
There’s a common generalization that compares lives to video game difficulty settings. White, cisgender males from affluent homes are playing Life on the easiest possible setting. Meanwhile, gender-nonconforming females of color have that setting turned up to bloody-fucking-difficult.
It is odd to thank the someone specially when he’s not giving you any advantage. From previous seven days my room servant went to his village for crop harvest. During these days I get to know his importance because after two days I was sleeping with some crawling and flying…
This is beautiful! I love your poetry. There’s so much truth to this poem, a lot of people go down this road.
Their was once a girl named Ammara. She loved everything. She even loved her life although she was poor and didn’t have enough money to buy a slice of bread. One day she saw something on her bed that almost made her cry. It was a brand new sled that her parents had bought for her. She was so excited…
Dr. Seuss said it best, but was he right? Does one need to possess a certain amount of peculiar thinking to…
There’s never going to be another you. Let this really sink in.
If you want to live a certain way, then anything other than pursuit that is a waste of your time. Living in a way to make others happy at the inconvenience of yourself is a waste of your time.Your time is the…
Those of you who have spent any time learning about Derek Sivers have probably heard him talk about doing what you’re afraid of doing. Certainly he’s not the only person to suggest this, and I can think of several books right now that also talk about…
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1. Join a running clubIn a new study, mice that “worked out” en masse lost 50 percent more abdominal fat than their solitary peers. According to lead researcher Matthew during, Ph.D., a professor of neuro- science at Ohio State university Medical Center, this…
The Art and of War and the War of War are constant and unforgiving. Sun Tzu, Jomini and Clauswitz all know about this battle. Like the article mentions, they made habits of attacking and overcoming any barriers or threats.
I find society intimidating, public places frightening, and communication with “real-people” almost impossible. Very few people are not unnerved by a failure to establish eye contact. I can look rude, contrary, disinterested or at best, weird. Such is my mental (ill) health.
In high school I was a dancer and I did my first professional show in Los Angeles. The big…
I love your post. I really felt like I was witnessing you struggling to maintain a sense of identity and self purpose in the midst of hardship. I have been taking that point of decluttering and have let go of friends that provide negative energy to my environment. I think my biggest struggle on my journey is to let go of my debilitating fear of…
I first started thinking about conveyor belt living towards the middle of my decade…
Thanks! This is a helpful post. I’m just starting to get out on my own a bit while keeping my day job. I’m hoping it turns into a situation where I can take the risk and swim on my own. Any other advice is welcome!
A great article, Chris! The truth about public speaking fear is weird, but I agree with you on all points. And it’s funny that when we get on stage, we get the same reaction that our predecessors had when they encountered a sabretooth tiger — fight or fly ;-)
O ser humano consegue ser tão ignorante e egoísta para ser cego o suficiente de não ver o seu próprio ego inflar.
#Life — sometimes it’s just about survival..:)
Think about everything you do, why do you do them. There are things you do because you love them, but there are also things you do because you have to. You go to work at a crappy job, or you play a sport because your parents want you to. You are always to follow your dreams, but the part…
There’s something you want.
You don’t quite know in-detail what it is yet, but you get glimpses of it. You get an image in your head, an idea, or you get a sense of what it is.
Focusing on the details are important up until they become an excuse.
What’s more important is speed. In this life of finite time, to get the most out of the remaining time you have left is crucial and speed is a huge part of that.
How many of us know when the right opportunity presents itself? I can attest and answer and say I don’t always know. When you strive to be successful there are times when opportunity may seem bleak. You are prepared for this to happen and once opportunity comes knocking our response is either fear or…
Every morning i start a new chapter in my life
Some months ago my life gave a 360 degrees spin, and then i was there, lost, trapped in my…
Bird song in Bombay? Balcony too? Boy take me with you to where ever you are. In my part of the Sin City, I wake up every morning to loudspeakers bellowing at gods. The last bird I saw was a year back in a movie set in NY City. … but even after my mad rant, let me admit, Good piece capitaan. Let it flow….
Two cups of excitement. One cup of confusion. A teaspoon of anxiety. A dash of exhilaration. Sprinkle indecision on top.
That’s how I’m feeling with my last day of classes behind me, exams before me, graduation ahead of me, and…
#11. I feel that one every few minutes….I do live in Jersey after all LOL
I’m feeling less bile today, but I’m going to dig deep for some to get it all out and make sure it doesn’t fester and grow. I’m sure it’s there hiding behind something after being picked on and exposed.
I’m mad at the fear and the uncertainty this is causing. I’m mad that I’ve ended up…
Corremos tanto em nosso cotidiano que são poucos que param para observar a bela paisagem que temos.
(by Luca Sbardella)
April 28, 2016–2 more days
So the the day is almost upon us. As I sit here trying to put baby to sleep on this…
“Treat Not Cheat”
We all love having a treat now and again and it should be part of your plans if you have a health goal.
Mesmo que tudo pareça ter desabado hoje, existem peças novas para se montar e construir algo mais belo amanhã.
