~ How I’m overcoming my fear of speaking to people
About a month ago I had an interview. It wasn’t for a new job, it was part of an application for a scholarship I’m going for. In this interview I was asked “what drives you?” My response talked about the enjoyment I get from seeing people in my team grow, get…
What stops you from becoming who you dream of becoming?
We have always been wondering after time passes, what was that which I could have done differently…
Pernah nggak kita ngobrol dengan orang lain yang awalnya damai-damai saja, tiba-tiba jadi drama dan penuh emosi?
Some suggestions on how to give feedback like pro and take feedback like a champ.
Feedback is like a first date: if you play it right you have a chance to further that…
As a 25 year old constantly juggling my job, my hobbies and my social circles, I find the idea of cool to be increasingly redundant and frustrating. Not because I think it is elitist/exclusive, but more because I think it stunts the people it burdens with the accolade. Allow me…
I don’t regret blaming my brother for all of my faults. If I fell down, I pointed in his direction and bawled. If something went missing, he was the one who took it. If something was broke, he had to take the rap. If he was going somewhere with his friends, I insisted on going…
Last night, I declared on Facebook that I would not be drinking anymore to my community on…
I recently reread the first issue of my good friend, Lee Christopher’s (or Xopher as he prefers to be called) comic. He wrote the issue as an…
Are six of the stupidest and most pathetic words in human history.
Whenever I hear these words being uttered to me, it’s usually after said guy, or lady fucks up on an epic level.
I spent a good bulk of years collecting bad habits until, like the most memorable characters on Hoarders, I couldn’t make my way to the front door. These bad habits were nothing more than doing nothing. I moved slowly, pitched in tar all around me. Within this sticky goo…
You’ve heard the saying: “we’re all just a cog in the wheel.” Picture all the jobs in the world make up one big wheel. We each are some piece of the wheel that come together to make it continually go round. You will inevitably be some part of this wheel, but what that piece…
“Thanks to you I got a new thing started, Thanks to you I’m not the broken-hearted, Thanks to you I’m finally thinking about me” — Kelly Clarkson
There was a very earnest book I loved — as one does — when I was a teenager. It was called the Book of Qualities. It took…
I must have read Jungle Book multiple number of times both as a child and in later…
Yogi Movement is a Santa Barbara based organization started by two lovely Yoginis, Isa Oestman Olai and Marta Waldrop Bergman. Yogi Movement’s mission is to educate girls in India, through donation based yoga around our beautiful city. To spread its mission, the two founders participated…
So relationships, that golden word. Hated by some, loved by others. But an unavoidable aspect of life.
I used to think I was good at them. Now… Well you can guess.There is an old saying that you can’t love someone else, till you can love…
When I turned 16 years old, getting my drivers permit and learning to drive a car was a…
It has been over 10 years since I started my battle with depression. It’s crazy to think that over 10 years ago during my Senior year of High School this whole debacle started. With time comes perspective and in some cases…
As you already know, there are days in your life that can fly by uninterrupted…
…what does it mean to choose love?
for the last several months, i have been ending my yoga classes with- “…and on this journey, please choose love.” just like many of the words i say- it takes a transition period for them to live and i don’t believe it’s hypocrycical. i believe that there is sometimes a gestation period…
Hey Laurie, there’s a very good book about the ethical dilemmas born out of friendships that get derailed by no other force than our human nature.
The author is Mark Matousek, he wrote ‘Ethical Wisdom for Friends’, and he is a master at examining friendship as ‘a mirror of our inner lives’.
Recently I received a letter advising me of a specialist appointment booked for a time in 2017 and a new Medicare card that expires in 2021. OK, so we’re now…
A client asks me: I have financial problems. For years feel so stuck financially. How do I break free once and for all? You would have to begin by asking yourself what is it that you want to break free from. Is it your financial…
It’s Saturday afternoon, a time which for some reason lures me to write and so I have decided to reflect on yesterday’s activities.
Yesterday in Tottenham, North London; my mother’s new business venture (www.hshcakes.co.uk) (www.facebook.com/hshcakes) made its…
An old adage says, “Actions are better than words”. But words can be as powerul as actions. One word can heal. One word can hurt. One word can make and break a relationship. One word can change your life, and that of…
A new year is here. It’s time to make some decisions about how you will live this year. In order to…
Not now. As in 100 photos ever. All up.
I’m having a city break in Madrid this weekend and have spent most of the day walking around seeing the sights. And just like every other place I’ve visited, as soon as there’s something remotely interesting…
Confusion of identity out of the way, ready to move forward
“The corporation often only hires people who paid $100,000 or more for a piece of paper (a degree) when they were ages of 18 — 22. This tethers you even more because you have to pay back that money or the government comes after you.”
The strategic structuring that is today’s menace to a person’s creativity & passion.
Often times we spend our days concerning ourselves with what we don’t have: who made us upset, who disappointed us, what we didn’t…
Looking for a new job isn’t easy. It’s a road paved with failure and rejection. Constantly making your…
If you haven’t read my last article, you’ll notice a lot of my articles (including ones yet to be written) materialize from catastrophes I hit in the workplace, perhaps as a result of my personality or lack of intuition. Here’s a short list of some of my largest failures to date.
“Yeah… I have anxiety when I talk to new people and I’m really sorry about it.”
“Oh, don’t worry, I totally get it, I have anxiety, too!”
~3 hours later, explaining why something is bothering me.~
I keep all my personal diaries since I´ve started writing them when I was 13…And this is so awesome. It allows me to remember things I would never ever remember, if it wasn't for that little note I´ve made in the past.
There is an excess amount of fuck bombs on Medium. I complain and yet I love the work “fuck.” Doing it is the best. Duh. But this discussion ain’t about doing it, the act of, but, rather, saying it or writing it; the uttering or penning it. The elements of the style of the exquisitely nasty, but quite…
Words have such a power. Sterile words can hurt, while words written with a passion, even unconscious ones, permeate the senses. Kind words can heal, poison words can damage. More importantly the intent behind the words brings the power to them. Sonnets written in sorrow, although the subject is a bright sunny day, turns our inner light to sadness…
Our society gives us the message that humbleness and modesty are virtues, and the opposite of these virtues is arrogance and conceit. This message is especially strong for women, and also in the southern regions of the US. Many people I know are self-deprecating and embarrassed at being singled out for a…
For those people who have many thoughts, ideas and words in their heads, it may become a bit hard sometimes to express them to others. Especially when other people don’t really understand what on Earth you’re on about. This post is — you guessed it —…
I am amazed everyday at that I see and learn from my son. I thought I had learned a lot in my days, but the last almost 2 years have taught me more that than I have learned in my whole 30 years…so here is a few of the things I’ve learned:
How well you express in words the way that I feel in the secret recesses of my mind, if a mind can be permitted to feel, if a heart can be permitted to think.
Is a horrendous cacophonic monstrous collaboration of oxymorons and anxiety.
It races about telling me that things should be squeaky clean and run like a well greased motor that’s been pampered like a child of riches and no wishes. Yet it tells me not to…
I had problems deciding the topic to this article. I thought of calling it "the dream that kills itself"…
Esattamente ieri, mentre rientravo casa, nel tragitto a piedi ho dato un rapido sguardo a Medium. Senza sapere come, mi sono ritrovato a leggere un breve post dal titolo intrigante: “Chicken Tenders, Routine…
I’m tired. Almost always. I am tired of being fearful and doubtful and agitated and losing at every turn in…
Sacrifice.
What does that word mean to people?
When the definition is so readily available it becomes second-nature to know. But, to FEEL the weight of sacrifice is to truly know the definition of the word.
Fear and apathy are the biggest enemies of business and personal success. But before anything, you would have to ask yourself what is your personal definition of success. Many people imagine success comes in the shape of money or fame. Others…
I shared 6 professional tips with one of my seniors working at Mentor Graphics. I met him over an event at UET and did a general talk while explaining these tips. That are following1. Put your time in: Everyone starts out doing grunt work till trust is proven
In the old days, when telephones had yet to be invented, the general store served as the center of communication.
It was here that folks would come to resupply. Dry goods, tools, and such. But, a forgotten aspect was the human connection. People did not just come in to but stuff and go home. They also came to here the latest…
It’s Possible!
I had the opportunity to attend “Demo Day” at The Iron Yard Houston last friday. Demo Day is graduation day for all enrolled Iron Yard students. Students in the Front End and Backend Programs graduate after 13weeks of rigorous…
This is not much of a blog, I just wanted everyone to know that my book, Prison Diary(a): A…
I have always believed in the power of words. Not just the power of saying or not saying something to someone. But also that by naming things, fears, desires, you get hold of them, they must fit in the shape your words are giving them, they are not anymore that amorphous, scary, nameless mess.
Another FAQ I get as Life Coach is the question: Can money really buy you happiness? I think you’ll find that, often enough, happiness is not an end but more like an attitude. It may depend on many things and what you make your own happiness rely on is…
As a Life Coach I encountered many interesting questions. For example, how do salespeople manage the burden of frequent rejection? In this day and age, we seem to be used to having things work out just the way we want them to. At least, that’s we…
“Who would you like to be?” is a question that we expected to hear often when we were younger. Now, it sounds almost ridiculous when asked to a grown up person, working in the field of life coaching. But go along with this and try asking yourself…
I have been experimenting with social sciences for almost 20 years now. Picking up fuzzy terms and dissecting them for better understanding is what I have done all my life… at university as a student, in ad industry as a strategist and in corporate world as a planner. One of the…
When we find ourselves going through a rough patch of business failure, the immediate thing we tend to do is to look at the future, hoping that things will somehow get better. But the truth is that nobody…
Selecting some of the negative things that have happened to you during the last week and then…
“Life is hard and then you die” says the old quote. Does it have to be that way? Don’t you have a role, a…
Everyone has a dream of some kind, weather it’s becoming a famous movie star to falling in love with the perfect person. We all have dreams about…
The topic is really shaky. I believe specialism and generalism geos with the personality of the person. I know people who are autodidact and I know people who tried to be but got lost in that world. Taking me as an example, teaching myself stuff can take years while I could make alot of progress in just months when am being taught. It all boils down to the personality and make up of a person
My experience tells me a different story. My three young adult children graduated from an affordable state college with no debt and paid for it themselves with scholarships and working while in school. I offered to pay for their college but they did it on their own. They were taught from birth that college is a place to prepare for work and to major…
Emotional Worker are people who hold postitions in jobs that call for public service or health care.
This topic hits me right at home. I work at a grocery store where I need to be able to keep a straight and smiling face under pressure. My employers hired me because I was…
If you think it’s necessary to suffer and go through failed business before expecting something better, then it could happen that you spend your entire life waiting for that thing to come. Despite what some people say (things…
Well said. Thanks for expressing what I bet many of us feel, but don’t have the courage to admit. And sometimes just reaching out to the friend who we know will always be there and has always been there just makes us feel even worse about ourselves. Even worse, the longer we put it off, the harder it becomes to make the call. Keep on hanging in there…
There is a certain type of person who is always selfless, helping others. They don’t mind lending a hand to help out and almost never expect anything in return. Actually, considerate people who think of others’ interests and act in favor of them (and not only their own) are the…
WEEKEND!!!!!
This is usually when you have 2 choices:
- Rest
You are what happens inside the walls you build and the ones you break down.
What are the common mistakes that successful entrepreneurs make after they have their first success? Speaking from a personal experience (also as a Fail Coach), I believe that, though it contributes enormously to your lifestyle, you…
DPA = Discover, Pursue, and Achieve
Welcome back to the Leap Year, where I will share helpful tips on how you can finally take the leap and DPA your dreams. This week I share my insights from W4 of my Leap Year process, in which I…
The sun always finds sons and daughters to fall upon…and it is with this awareness I accept that the sun is always shining.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Craig. This was a beautiful read, thank you for sharing. Thinking of you! X
Thank you for sharing! I’m so glad the mean ones didn’t stop you. And congratulations on making headway in a class of very strong and qualified women who know and love sports and deserve the platform to contribute to the conversation. Bravo!
Time is defined as the indefinite continued progress of existence and events in the past, present, and future regarded as a whole.
What if you experienced a tragedy so devastating that it kept you from becoming the person you were created…
Often times we are groomed and taught to be perfect and try to do everything correctly and I wonder if that may have done us a disservice? It…
I respect your opinion but people write self-help guides to help those who are interested in improving themselves or making themselves a better person. This goes on to say that everyone has a different way of measuring their success or happiness, and there are those who may be satisfied where they are in life. Those who want to become better are who…
The Transition
I did not die
I simply stepped into another room
TRANSPARENCY
Hello friends,
Can you define term called “Transparency”?. Its easy to define as no barriers between you and reality. In school days we learnt about glass being a transparent object which allow light to pass through it. Today I am going take you to a level where transparency have become…
4 Different Ways to Make Yourself Fall Asleep Faster Tonight (No Matter How Much Is on Your Mind)…This Infographic Covers 4 Unique — and Scientifically-Proven — Tricks you Should Try Tonight.
Having just returned to work after 10mths maternity leave, I had to read this. Love it, love it, love it 😁😂😁😂 Every word spot on!
Being a mum is the hardest job I’ve ever had the honour of doing. Relentless, exhausting, repetitive, boring, unbelievably fulfilling, wonderous, incredible, amazing. It’s been the steepest…
Be all that you can be , inside your own head, and attempt to manifest that in your own life. In the first moments of interaction with others, respect what your deepest feelings are , even if you must actually ask yourself what they are. I only hope that loving and respecting your self for who you are will eliminate superficial people from your life.
What is it to be happy?
That is what it is.
Art is for those who are willing to expand there horizon. Art is for those who are willing to let standard thinking go.
If you can’t let it go….. Most of art is not for you.
Oh yeah! Count me in! I am honored. And a wee bit confused. But I’m familiar with several authors you mentioned and look forward to reading more of their work.
And honestly your message spurred me to action. A wee bit of writing erupting finally into a full-on Snoopy dog nose in the air Happy Dance!!!
I’m a freelance human whose attention span differs from day to day. I’m twenty-eight years old and not ashamed…
Is there someone or some occasion that really touched you and you decided to…
I wonder, at work, is it more important to manage performance or manage emotions? Given the impact of how one person’s emotions running rampant can affect the whole team, it’s easy to see managers, as nannies, running about with a bib and a bottle of milk.
You could just tag elizabeth tobey in your note- she is the most helpful and lovely human being on the planet (or as close to that as I’m ever going to find*) and listens to all requests.
*I’m not looking that hard to be fair, please don’t list people you think are better than her
I send mail to some 4 people of my network and asked them for their life purpose. All of these didn’t respond to my mail then I contacted them on phone and asked them. One of my friend was so surprised and took it as a joke but on explaining all about the activity she told me her purpose of life is to work within a multinational organization like…
This is a pretty simple view. The excitements are not rejected by the body, they never have entered the body. The intestines should be seen as a vessel through the body rather than in the body and the body absorbs what he needs, everything else passes through, therefore what is not to love in the excremental output, since it is just your processed…
I completely understand the feeling of nothingness. A deep depression consumed me some years ago, to the point where I wouldn’t eat or get out of bed. All I did was cry. After I “recovered” from that part, I couldn’t feel anymore. The realization didn’t hit me until I couldn’t cry when my grandfather died. It was the first major death I had ever…
The world needs survivors. To share experience, strength, and hope with those who will need it to survive. Thank you for being one of them. ❤
I believe people cheat because they do not know how to express their feelings to the person they love. I do not know why that is so hard for someone talk to the person they so-called “in love with”, but they are okay to talk to someone else about what they feel. The person that…
I had a very good girlfriend that took one year and did one thing per month that scared the shit out of her — everything from skydiving to trash collection in the ghetto. It helped me see that fear and pain make you grow to find your purpose and sometimes you need to be the one to instigate the stimulus.
Thanks Gary. This post was sobering and empowering.
This is the best observation of life I have ever read and it is certainly true for many situations and occasions. This is what they meant by “The good ones are left alone while the troublemakers get all the attention they want.” The most powerful line to end the story with.
The avocado tree outside my window
Swayed back and forth with ardor
In a contest of stamina with the wind
This way,
And then that way.
I am still a child who eats humility for happiness,
How do you go on knowing you have hurt the ones you truly love?You don’t.There is no way possible.
They made you feel as if you were something, as if you were special.
Protect gut from the strong stomach acids
Though in a sense, at least that tells me there are still gals interested in ActBiotics. ActBiotics is an enjoyable program to find the location of more types of ActBiotics. The purpose of a ActBiotics is to generate attention.
You Deserve Better Than An Over-Priced Cookie Cutter Funeral!
“Your Life Isn’t Boring, So Why Should Your Funeral Be?” –Emma Carter, CEO of The Bucket
This was good brother. It left me hanging in the beginning as it started off scattered, then it came together near the end, with no answers, but still asking questions. Brilliant.
One of the best lines to describe success-failure difference. Applies to each of the successful person without exception!
Surely I can’t just keep it all in my head. I’m slowly making the move to write more, but it’s something about the moment that writing won’t match. I suppose a different type of love can exist with this medium, so here we are. I’ll be putting a lot of thoughts on here, mostly music however I care…
It is less overwhelming to change one habit at a time.
The most significant aspect of your life wasn’t analyzed, it wasn’t forced or rushed to completion: Your life itself.
Your existence alone was effortless in the making and look how wonderful of a gift it's been.
Karma is when you think the world is great and things are going good and everything is fine only for something from the past to come bite you in the ass and let you know that life isn’t great and that it was just a phase of life.
Because who’s really that lucky?
Thanks for reminding us that today is a day to celebrate the art of dancing! I love the passion with which Gene Kelly shared dance and how he emphasized both in his words and dances the beauty as well as the athletic nature of this art form.
We all face problems, they are part of life, it is not personal and everyone has them, the rich and the poor. Artists and non Artists, it is just life.Its what we do with each problem we face that really counts.We can look for a solution to the problem or we can be overwhelmed by the…
People can be so stupid
People can be so heartless
So blind to pain
So blind to the love craving cries
They are breaking
Looking for compassion
Oh My God, This was extremely fast video but this was super interesting as well and that made me listened to it again and again because I missed many things in one go. I believe, I am capable of relating to this video because I am myself a psychologist as well as a great supporter of…
Good one, Jon! A ray of sunshine and hope amongst all the stories of entrepreneurs who had brilliant ideas and became m[b]illionaires overnight. I struggle with my startups, but compounding the frustrations with endless fairy tales make me feel utterly stupid as well. So, thanks for telling your story like it is…
Is it winter time in your Art practice?
Dear Artist friends, I understand what it can be like when things are not going well.No sales.You have taken the advice given and did it all, yet it’s not working.Why is it not working?We all face winter times in our Art practice and in life.Its dark, its cold and its sometimes…
Here it comes. The end of my Army career is looming and now it’s time to take the civilian path. So far, nothing seems real. I have been a Soldier for so long that I hardly remember what it was like to be out with no military benefits or structure. I plan to chronicle my transition and hope that it will also…
Throughout these past six months, my life has spiraled out of control.
Let me elaborate a little: I have gone from being a disciplined, organized, and focused college student to a commitment-deterred and emotion-driven individual with…
Makes me want to kill my TV
Love! Love! Love! Love this! Such a great read.
I completely agree..😥😥
