A common question in the section of personal development.
This is one in a series of essays that was originally conceived as a book for print publication. If you enjoy it and would like to read…
Everyone has a secret move or a special technique they use to keep themselves pumped up to complete a task…
My energy is too precious of a resource to say yes to projects that aren’t 100% aligned.
If I’m not in alignment, it’s a solid NO. And a NO means NO.
In Design is Storytelling, Ellen Lupton explains the difference between a maze and a labyrinth. At first glance, they look similar. But a maze has dead ends, while a labyrinth does not.
Dear Debra,
Identity is a loaded concept. Always has been, but these days, even more so. Everyone carries multiple identities through…
I recently found myself in a conversation with someone who was adamant about the need to find new solutions to existing problems, but was far from empathetic about the people around him. For every issue, he expressed his view on the problem, but was not concerned about how other…
This David Goggins guy sounds very tough.
And very miserable (at times).
The main concept for Acceptance is for us to accept ourselves just as we are, sitting here, in God’s world…
Today I turn 38.
If you want to give me a birthday present, it won’t cost you anything. In fact you don’t even have to send it my way. You can give it to yourself or those around you, and that would be enough for me.
If I could give one advice to my younger self what would that be?
It would have been the…
My Plan for Life & Life’s Plan for Me
Divyanshi was part of the first batch of Swadharma. At the moment, she is working on building a website portal on…
Battle is the most magnificent…
Thank you for sharing your story, and I’m sorry you had to go through all of that. I don’t know how we’re going to fix all of the old, deep cracks that #MeToo is thankfully shedding light on, but sharing our stories and validating each other is an amazing and significant first step. Pixar and all the creative/tech companies in SF/SV are completely…
My life has changed for the better in the last 6 months, as much as I would love to take all the credit, all facts point…
“TL;DR”
Today, on a lazy Sunday that sees me savoring the final day of my recent ‘funemployment’, I realized that I’ve…
Noemi? After living in Italy for the past 10 years, she recently moved to La Seu d’Urgell — into the…
Hromady článků a návodů na to jak být pozitivně naladěný a namotivovaný, jak zvládat stres a užívat si…
I was looking for a phrase through my previous journal notebook when I found words that made me…
You can't change how you look.But you can be nice.
Take a moment to reflect on the following questions.
I’ve always loved vampire television shows, but I did not think one about a sappy love triangle would be…
We all start out as followers. Out of necessity for our survival and then for our identity, religious and political…
Almost wrote a post with this exact title!
You are so right that most of us don’t get serious about paving our own path until we start getting older and realize time is running out. We accept the path that is presented to us and the longer we’re on that path, the harder it is to take another road. I think a big part of the…
Moving to a new country by yourself or with a partner is a life-changing move. Your personal independence sky…
37 years!
It took me 37 years to discover something we do as humans.
Do you know the two most frequently used words when I meet someone for the first time?
Awesome advice, does chit chat apply to all conversations, business and social?
We all have different concepts as to what constitutes as “useless shit.” Sometimes good shit comes from things we might see as first glance as useless.
Thanks
This past week was kinda crazy. Today I will publish this article as an journal entry. I got…
It was Pride Weekend in Toronto. As was tradition in the past three Prides I’ve…
I love road trips. Picture the excitement of a 5 year old on Christmas morning and that’s…
The Moon in freedom loving Aquarius moves past retrograde Mars and towards a lovely…
That book you wish existed, write it.
That company you wish existed, build it.
That thing you wish would change, change it.
It’s never the things you wish for that will make a difference and always the things you do that…
Times 2.
正向心理學好似同半杯水嘅道理被劃成等號。其實係嘅，我自己覺得開心與否真係睇你worldview係點。今日睇咗本日文翻譯書叫做《如果再傻一點問題就能解決了》。裡面列嘅例子好多係用日本女藝人鈴木奈奈做範本。因為我本身冇追日流唔清楚佢係邊個，所以有留意開日本文化嘅人應該會更加喜歡依本書。
作者用了一個我完全未聽過嘅term嚟衡量快樂指數，命名為「傻瓜力」。
呵呵有得揀邊個會想俾人當做傻瓜？
Blog 091 — June 30, 2018
Sadly, it takes most of us to long to truly appreciate this point. Loved the post, Darius! Well done.
Our feelings, thoughts and beliefs are wonderful gifts from God that help us understand…
Inspired by Kelvin Teo to start my own monthly compilation of the good quotes from articles…
There were times that I would have really vivid dreams and I’m not sure why or what I was doing different — probably drinking too much or smoking too much dope. But my dreams were like counselors, my subconscious guiding me and giving me advice or revealing truths that I already knew but had suppressed.
Deportes han sido una gran parte de mi vida. Tuve la oportunidad de jugar muchos deportes. Empecé…
I initially anticipated my first medium to be written and published six months ago in January 2018. I had spent hours of planning throughout December thinking of potential blog names, ideas, titles and have been stuck at a brick wall for all this time and didn’t know…
Or is it the destination?
Is it the process that counts?
Or is it just the creation?
Is winning just a stroke of luck?
Blog 092 — July 01, 2018
Things I should stop saying it to myself if I’ve got to achieve my dreams.
Well, people have told me don’t put your heart out on public, don’t post after certain time, you may seem desperate! I respect the way people think. At least! they think. Some people don’t even have the ability to think. But, I am not writing this to complain or be critic about how people think…
I will work on that! :)
When I was young, I got made fun of in school and at dance for several things. From my hair, what I wore to my changing body.
As I sit here staring at my daughter sleeping on of my biggest fears when I had her was how would I protect her from people making…
This is one of the reasons why people stick with rules within organizations, rules with which they may not necessarily agree.
My Dad had a 40-year career with the Seventh Day Adventist Church. He is retired now and getting a pension from the Church.
Morning routines; including coffee, exercise, writing, reading… we’ve experimented and learned about the importance of a morning routine.
Did I enjoy travelling alone? Yes.
You are your own master. You make your own decisions. You are the captain.
However….
Would I volunteer to do it again?
No.
Alive time vs. Dead time
“So far as I can remember, there is not one word in the Gospels in praise of intelligence.” ~ Bertrand Russell
Blog 089 — June 28, 2018
It’s the first day of the new month. I think it’s worth reflecting the first half of the year. Before the whirlwind of hard work and…
In one of Henri Nouwen’s books, he tells about the lesson of trust he learned from a family of trapeze artists known as the Flying Rodleighs. He visited with them for a time after watching them fly through the air with elegant poise. When he asked one of the flyers the secret of trapeze…
Class of 2016, Stephen moved to Boston after graduation to work on his own startup
When I’m traveling, I’ve been able to visit my family more often, once every couple of months. It’s been good for me, especially when…
This story is inspired by the film Manchester by the Sea. It need not necessarily be a direct representation of my life, though at certain parts I acknowledge the influence of my views and personal feelings that may shape this particular story.
Nikki and the Machine
I’m broadcasting from my phone, so forgive the capitalizations and other adherence to syntactical convention.
I’m listening to Florence +The Machine’s new album “High as Hope" and deep in my feelings. I’ll spare you the overwhelming majority of what’s going through my head…
I loved this piece. It really moved me because I love to write and have had relationships based on writing. I’ve seen people become completely different writers after months…or years of practice. It’s just something I love to witness. Many writers have the experience of looking back at what they wrote 6 months ago and cringing. How beautiful is that…
When I was in school people would wear bracelets that had the WWJD acronym written on it.
Finding Yourself
“Sometimes the right person you need to find in your life is yourself”.
People are always busy talking about others and talking to others. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should live their lives; but none about his or her own. We keep on pondering about…
Here comes another person who writes about social media. But read the title carefully. I said “why”. In this entire post I am not going to give a single negative feedback about facebook. I am going to give you a reason. A reason same as you give yourself when you hit the gym in morning. The…
Top Three Mistakes (stationary bike)
I once looked up to leaders and thought to myself, “man… they have it all”.
Class of 2018, Julian is working in sales at the same edtech startup in Montreal he interned at during university
I’m fairly active, I eat well… one thing I could do better is a work out schedule, since right now I just…
But nope. There isn’t. Taking a sabbatical year comes with risks, however, I like to…
The famous phrase that still being used right now, well admittedly this phrase have a good intention, but not really applicable in real life. Why? Because we are human. There is something unique in human brain that could happen really fast and almost instantaneously without…
Sunday Night Blues
Since my early school days I have subjected myself to the timely pangs of self-deprecating anxiety, I have come to call my Sunday Night…
Great piece of work! Finally, I know what is wrong with me and can be fixed! Ouch! Marching to the beat of a different drum, Being “Shy”, Keeping to one’s self or being “Introverted” are not problems. I am glad you have brought this up! Those poor introverts can now be “Fixed!”
1. Acceptance — we all make mistakes. We must give ourselves permission to make mistakes because this is how we learn, if we never made a mistake again we would never learn anything and our lives would become intolerably…
Your father is out of city and you have to go bank or any government office with mother
A vida é um eterno jogo de futebol e muitas vezes vamos para os pênaltis.
By the end of the month, I’ll be significantly closer to my There, the coffee tells me. Second cup, and about to go to Starbucks for…
Thank you for the follow-up. Food for thought.
I would counter that I have personally known, read about on Medium and elsewhere, and have had therapists confirm that women may appear to enjoy “playful” sex (read: degrading).
Blog 090 — June 29, 2018
I am officially on the final 10-day countdown to the end of this 100-blog challenge. What an incredible experience this has been. It has brought me insight, clarity and peace in so many aspects of my life. The perspective I have gained has changed my…
Thank you for the kind words, Peter! To be honest, I was sort of teasing about being bad at dating (though it does feel that way sometimes)!
I miss chivalry and letting things develop rather than the assumption that sex should be a foregone conclusion by the 2nd or 3rd date. I’m old-fashioned, it seems!
Sounds like manipulative abuse to me. The researching behind your back and talking to your friend. Also my red flags go up when you describe the perfect house and clothing choices. It fits these people to show a perfect outside.
It’s true that every disappointment can leave you scarred but understanding that someone has…
If you’re happy and you know it, clap your hands. If you’re happy and you know it, clap your hands. If you’re happy and you know it, then your face will surely show it. If you’re happy and you know it, clap your hands.
COMFORTABLY UNCOMFORTABLE
Today has been more of a struggle than Id like to remember however what I have gained in result of this unfortunate situation is…
if i left sooner
i would have never known
“I wasn’t having second thoughts, but I was having thoughts.” ~~Jonathon Safran Foer
Day 92: 7/1/2018
Things did not go as planned today.
I wanted to start working productively today. Unfortunately, things went in a completely opposite direction. Hours and hours flew by and I was not…
The term baggage doesn’t bother me, but definitely use whatever term sounds best for you!
Thank you for reading and responding!
No, he isn’t poly. He’s what we call in the States a “player.”
And, no, he was not honest, that was the problem. In fact, I was the honest one!
Should you care to read the additional facts of this story, they are here:
… or activity to replace your time processing challenges and psychological/psychic injury. You have got to get through the discomfort of calculating the massive and complex data that your processors were not designed to handle any faster than they are running. Be patient. Be…
I believe some of us have certain untapped potential that has yet to be fully unleashed. The reason for this is because we’re constantly in some sort of belief that is so ever-present, so ubiquitous that we are literally blinded by it. The fact that we have gone to…
Let’s be honest, is this unfolding good, the pause within the pause, or are you preparing for battle? Beware the dangers of people…
I grew with a narcissistic dad who made me and my brothers life hell. We were never good enough in his eyes. So I just always assumed I wasn’t good enough. Those feeling carried on into my adulthood even though my father passed away when I was 13. I accomplished so many crazy things in a very short period…
Creative work is tough because you’re searching for something you’ve never seen, and you’re not really sure what it looks like.
It sounds like a paradox.
My lack of recognition has never impeded my ability to say something that is needed to be said, or written down. If you don’t write it down, no one will ever read it!
If you write something down, Does that make you a writer? When do you become a writer?
Lately I’ve been a bit depressed. Maybe not to any real extremes, but it’s been there. And anxious. About the way my life is going, and feeling overwhelmed with all I have to do.
Ever felt the pit of despair when you tried to re-run an analysis and got a completely…
Great points. Thanks for sharing.
Steve
If you need something motivational to get you pushing, you came to the right place.
“How are you, brother?”
“I’m alive, how bout you?”
~
“Dang, but that’s funny.”
Thanks for reading and responding, NC Sampuran Preet! I hear what you’re saying.
Have you done many writing collaborations? I haven’t. That sounds interesting.
I want to firstly point out that I’m not a doctor and what I have written is only biased on my experience with life and not medical advice so please put the lime in the coconut and call your doctor.
Kasturi Shrivastava, I really agree with your message here.
It’s so important to have such a cut-off time, otherwise work will consume you. There’s always more to be done, and you must set the limit.
A lot of things life are about ‘struggling well’.
I loved this post.
You and only you are responsible for your life decisions.
You and only you are the master of your own ship.
Success is up to you. Success can be small – I got out of bed today and went to work. I am a hard working person, in a low paying job. I pay my…
I wrote this not because I’m going through a breakup or any crap like that but because of a random thought that came across my mind when I was in a mall watching all the cool stuff and sad about not owning it.
Investment into your state of mind yields dividents have higher multiplier effect in your productivity and benefits that never end.
You don’t realise how healthy you are;
Until you get sick.
You don’t realise how precious time is;
Until it goes quick.
You don’t realise how much you enjoy cooking;
As a father of four and having a wanderlust I can appreciate your dilemma and more importantly decision. As you rightly say, at end of day you must do what is right for you whatever anyone says or thinks. Great article.
Acts 3:1 (KJV)Now Peter and John went up together into the temple at the hour of prayer, being the ninth hour.
What an unlikely pair, Peter and John. Though John and his brother James were known as the sons of Thunder, it does not appear…
It’s gets difficult because it’s hard committing to what’s right. It’s difficult being the bigger man or woman. It’s…
I love, love, love this title, Chris! What a lovely story, too.
Thanks for you kind words Jordan Ebert. Let me know if you have any questions as you implement them into your life.
Hey, Sagar here.
My simple question “What is the beautiful thing in the world?”
Congratulations Louise Foerster! I am happy for you. Please let me know if there is anything that I can do to help!
I had this wheezing dry cough for close to two weeks now. And I know it’s not because of the flu (though it originally started as..from it..clunky).
This is ashmatic cough. (Don’t google it as I made it up. The term not the situation. Or I don’t know. Is it a real term?)
Ivan Rudolph,
I really enjoyed that quote, thanks for sharing.
Pain is necessary, use it to your advantage.
Sometimes life seems to go in favor of people, other times not so much. There are people in this world who have not experienced pain, or at least the pain that comes out of effort. Rich kids that leach on their parents for money and comfort which seems obvious considering the…
Programming our own minds with the thoughts we choose to think is the ultimate empowerment!
I turn my cheek and take a long sighBut I know that’s not always how I used to be.I know the fight to fight just to fight has fadedAnd yet…
Gary Vaynerchuk (aka Garyvee) is a very successful entrepreneur and has been able to effectively use social media to distribute content in the form of audio, video and written articles.
Overcoming a Loss!
I’ve lost and you’ve lost. What makes either tragic is when we accept the “L” as final instead of a lesson. Losses have the ability to heal to!
So as I recently embarked my new role with a company, I was great to come across this post on Medium about how to quickly learn in 1 week from a job that you would otherwise learn in 6 months.
Love lives:
Between —
I wouldn’t say she is my girlfriend. We are looking into getting married. It’s a cultural thing. If you start dating it’s a…
