And making it less painful
說到活出自我、享受生活 、追求夢想這樣的字眼，你第一個想到的念頭是什麼？
「有夢當然是最美，但是夢想又不能當飯吃。」…
“Altruism is innate, but it’s not instinctual.Everybody’s wired for it, but a switch has to be flipped.
David Rakoff
I have contemplated writing this for a while now — never actually putting pen to paper. Just…
I fell asleep in the barrel of a gun.
How useful would you be if you needed to respond to an emergency? If a fire broke out in your house, would you…
Or How I Learned to Stop Tweaking and Ship My Art
Two years ago, I walked into my university’s registrar’s office and withdrew from school. They informed me that I had about two days before…
Isn’t it a strange thing that we’ve been conditioned to apologize for things we think may affect others even if it’s something important to us?
Ungratefulness is worse than witchcraft
I lived in India with my family for 21 years and later moved to Tokyo where I shared an apartment…
Domestic abuse breaks you down into your smallest parts until your very being is broken, crushed glass. You can never be…
Often the motivational among us will say: “You can let the world happen to you, or you can happen to the world!” The…
By Van & Stuyvesant
Lebaran telah berlalu dan ibukota telah kembali menjadi kondisi seperti sebelum lebaran. Dan akupun telah kembali…
Crushes are somehow a major part of our lives. They makes us realize how beautiful love is and how…
By Van & Stuyvesant Consulting
The Money Tree;
What if money grew on trees, at least on one tree, and in front is placed a sign, take only what you need? On this tree is dollars, franks…
WORTH.
You Can Never Escape Yourself — But You Can Change
The Law of Attraction. That wonderful notion of ‘like attracts like’. The thing so many people are…
Online dating is becoming more common. People’s perceptions toward online dating also have evolved. It has now become a more generally acceptable way of meeting people. From a pure scientific point of view, it can be more efficient approach in meeting the right…
Hello.
Like Neil said in his weeknotes, it’s hard to know what to write when a week has mostly been quite standard fare. I’m not sure anything I was up to this week holds any big insight, though I do think the ‘just doing the things’ weeks are…
Ok well not the whole bottle. I’d probably be dead. And it’s not like I was sitting alone in…
Imagine spending a personal fortune on your dream home, kitchen or vacation. Now pretend the…
Undiscovered Rome
“Only when you are truly comfortable in your own skin can you begin to access the ancient wisdom…
As you go about your everydayness, have you ever wondered if you are making a difference in the lives of others?
A week ago yesterday, I invited a friend of mine out to lunch to celebrate her birthday. Her birthday was actually the 24th of July, but due to…
and it feels good to do good.
It is so rare in today’s uncivilized, frenetic newscycle – which assumes the audience has an average attention span of about 30 seconds – there is still room for a newscast which devotes over 10 minutes to a small, inspiring and thoroughly human story. In this case, the PBS NewsHour makes room in their…
Forget about the deadlines…
I was talking to an old friend the other day. We were discussing life, kids, relationships, jobs — you name it — we covered it. But there was…
So you think you’ve found your passion?? Then be ready for the next roller-coaster ride!
Tyler squinted. He leaned to his right and squinted again.
Q: Why is faith useful to an artist?
A: I went to Catholic School for thirteen years, from Kindergarten to 12th grade. Back then, my understanding of faith was that it was a word that Catholics used so they could believe in God and Moses and…
The day will be what you make it, so rise like the sun, and burn — William C. Hannan
Each morning you are given a new opportunity to begin the day in the right way by making it the best start you possibly can. Most people will take…
What did you want to be when you grew up?
give a f*** about your heart
Beginning with a challenge but ending right where I want to be, my space and my attitude…
Literally it’s not you.
In psychoanalysis we work a lot on what it’s yours and what is not (in what belongs to your self ego and what you take from other’s ego).
One of the exercises that I put my product managers (and myself) to when they come up with ideas and plans to work on is to ask them one question repeatedly.
“And then what?”
“I don’t believe in Jazz. I play John Coltrane.” — John Coltrane, musician
“I will concoct a Scott Fitzgerald that will make Benjamin Franklin look like a lucky devil who loafed into prominence.” — F. Scott Fitzgerald, author
It’s 2:37 am, 19th August 2018.
Imagine your life at its peak fulfillment. You’re exactly who you want to be, living right where you want to…
I was once an ambitious kid. I craved for skyscrapers, wished for stars and bagged some amazing trophies in those areas I was actively involved. There was a time when my parents were deeply proud of me, when my whole lot young cousins looked up to me…
You can learn as many new skills as you want to.
But if you don’t learn how you can get people to find out about you, your skills and what you have on offer, then that new skill is probably not going to change a whole lot.
I turn 22 tomorrow and I have just noticed how very very friendless I am.
was supposed to have lunch with a very good friend, one of the few people I thought actually cared about me, who decided for whatever reason, not to answer me, do what he said he would and ditched me for other people.
Q: What will the world look like in 300 years?
A: Everyone will be free to do what they like and eat cherries. Italian movies will have a resurgence. Magazines will have re-life. Every major novel will be livable in virtual…
I remember my first real feeling of accomplishment was in fourth grade, I had won star of the month. I could not believe…
If you want to start your own blog, start your own blog.
If you want to start making YouTube videos, make YouTube videos.
If you want to write a book, write a book.
The shame of privilege is one of the hardest I’ve had to integrate.
“It’s hard to see things when you’re too close. Take a step back” — Bob Ross
When it’s almost…
I can’t sleep so here it goes...
You were at the peak of "feeling inlove" with, "feeling giddy" in, "feeling…
The world may seem confusing today with Mercury just turned direct and the Sagittarius Moon…
A master in the art of living draws no sharp distinction between his work and his play; his labor and his leisure; his mind and his…
I have many interesting customers from all walks of life. Men from the office, the salespeople and their…
Without looking stupid
Ever since I was a little girl I’ve known that my relationship with my dad was special. He’s always had my back, always believed in my dreams (even when they involved things like going to the Wonderland-like in Disney…
What if there are no wrong turnsNo mistakesJust opportunities to growTo love,
I woke up today thinking about my two little sisters.
Because change will always start with you
Well, it has been quite some time since I have sat down and put anything on the screen. We are currently on a break after the twins, taking the time to regroup, de-stress, and try to put the lessons learned this round to good use. I have reached out to higher ups, who have reached out to appropriate contacts, and we will be having a meeting and…
I am in Mountains, I am in Sea too.
I am on Land, I am in air & water too.
I am in Humans, I am in animals & plant too.
I am in homes, I am in woods too.
It must have taken them repeated burns, beat ups, tears and an increasing tolerance to reach that zombie state.
Thousands of young people are working their butts off to get accepted into one of the med…
A secret so secret.
It has been said that the one constant in life is change. Our world and our lives are constantly changing.
Just reflect on your last five years and think about all the changes you have experienced and seen in the…
This week proved a lot to me. About how I see myself, about my character (its benefits and inconsistencies). And after careful thought, yes…
The Art of Effortless Living
How do they do it?
If you’re like me, you’ve met quite a few folks whose lives and their ability to be…
I hate it because it implies there’s something wrong with you. It’s like you’re in a really bad shape and…
Investing in your future is a great idea, but not all purchases are created equally. There are a lot of sales people out there who will pitch you on a financial investment that seems too good to be true. Here are five not worth their cost…
Over the weekend I learned that not all humans are made to bring comfort in our existence, so a big…
Heart VS Brain
The heart cries
Brain: “Look at you, you feel sorry”
How would you respond if you got a cancer diagnosis today? In this video, I share with you my experience of getting a cancer diagnosis, what I learned from it, and how I changed my life. I also walk you through some very practical writing exercises which will help you focus on your…
Today she works on Saturdays,
Wakes up early for a read.
Choose or not it’s still a choice
While I recognize your freedom to respond in whatever way makes you feel better about the situation, I don’t know that calling for censorship is the way to deal with people like Alex Jones. Being able to see and hear the dreck that they create/produce is much better than not knowing--especially so we can address it specifically. As one commenter said…
For 2018, I made some “New Year, New Me” resolutions, in my annual New Year post. I am happy to announce that…
Just when we believe we know enough, a situation occurs to remind us that we are still in learning mode…
To find someone you can grow with you have to first find yourself.
Have you ever asked yourself how to have a good conversation when talk to people?
If you are 18 you should know this..
There is a lot of excitement and fun in the teen age. We all had or you must be having. And, why not? You should be enjoying and moving with the flow where life takes you.
I left being a JW 3 yrs ago and am 47. I think people don’t realize how difficult of a decision it is to leave and clear your mind so you don’t feel bad while living a normal life. My parents, sister and her husband, 4 children etc will never talk to me again in my lifetime. I called my father in an emergency and was told NO, he wouldn’t help me and…
Blogging Challenge this month has been an immensely powerful experience for me…
How do you find the right painkillers for your illnesses? Some common ones have already been properly diagnosed. Ibuprofen for your headache, for example. Cough drops for your major sore throat, especially when you can’t stop coughing at…
You may just need a good hard fight.
How dedicated am I?
As someone who suffered chronic depression most of my life, I agree that lifestyle changes and embracing attitude and perception shifts are important. Like you, I worked my way out of depression more than once. But my biggest discovery was that if I continued to face depression after years of recovery I should also seek medical help. Medication isn’t…
Hands up if you’ve experienced times where things are so overwhelming and confusing you just don’t know which step to take next?
As to be expected, I’m sure you’ve been there, I certainly have and I know many have and will continue to experience these times and truth…
I’m not sure about what ‘stable’ is.
Some things that we know are true seem counter-intuitive. It seems like the sun revolves around the earth as we see it rise and set in the sky, while we know that exactly the opposite is true. One thing my old boss had trouble with was believing that you had to spend money to make money… it seems that you’d need to save money to have more but…
“Take me there,
Not here,
Not anywhere.
A place that is near,
But without fear.
Where his tears,
Drop only twice.
Where the soul is to be wiped.”
I’ve stumbled this topic that a user asked on how to handle my 20s (how to handle with stress, body and soul — the exact words from the question. It dawned me and got me to think as hard as I can to think back from what I have done these past few years back as I reached mid 20s year old. There…
I wrote this when I was child. I simply called it “An Adventure Story.” I had been a pixie, brownie and a girl scout from the age of 5 and quit the girl scouts in High school. (All comments in parentheticals are by me today.)
I had a long chat with myself today.
For me, these chats take place when I’ve beyond stressed. In a fit of fury, mostly with myself, for not having the determination to knock out another three hours of work on a Sunday afternoon, I went for a walk. A…
Psalms 40:10 (KJV)I have not hid thy righteousness within my heart; I have declared thy faithfulness and thy salvation: I have not concealed thy lovingkindness and thy truth from the great congregation.
I have to admit that in my 3 years as a university student in DLSU this has been the hardest and the most difficult project I’ve done. The other projects I handled may be difficult but nothing is more difficult than this one. On a musician’s perspective it’s…
Empowering Men… I know you must be thinking that what the heck I am talking about. Seriously, do our men need to be empowered?
I know gratitude can not actually be taught, it must come from the heart. But, with two little girls, ages 3 and 5, I am trying to teach them to think about things that they are happy for. Every evening I ask them 3 things they are grateful for. Why 3 you ask…well being 3 and 5 you often hear…
Imagino que sempre deve chegar aquele momento da vida em que pensamos: “O que eu quero fazer?”. Nos últimos dois anos eu…
Whether you’re talking about Boy Scout patches, Girl Scout patches, Merit Badges, patches for Brownies, patches for Cub Scouts, or some other type of scout patch entirely, at times it can feel like the…
So recently I’ve had the pleasure of assisting clients like you with things that I thought would be simple for anyone. I often provide…
#5 Hilltop familia;
I’ve started to write a lot about them.
-Akila Sridhar
It was raining heavily
But I still got out
I had a talk with an employee at our office and she seems to be passing through a transition in her life ..a midlife crisis …she was at a lost what is happening in her life .. as if something is missing in her life ..
Michael,
Thanks for your thoughtful response that is helping me clarify my thinking on the subject. I am going to spend some time digesting everything you said, and I am sure that I will have more questions as I think it through.
Thanks again,
Steve
That's nice thought Mike Stevenson. Judging by your qualification, it's commending to have you spoke this way. We can't rule out completely the importance of consistency. You’re right that good works cannot be rushed; we need to let them gather dust. The issue you raised of how things can be much better if we think of waiting can still be weaved into…
If you can keep your head when all about you
💑 Opposites attract
We saw it in science with the magnet and we also see it in life. In a relationship where two personalities are opposed, one brings…
If, when you think of what you want to do in life as a job, your head turns into a murky puddle of confusion…
I love this! Really speaks about the value in being unique:)) thanks for sharing
It’s the only question that SHOULD matter when we make decisions.
Does your broker suffer when you book a loss in your stocks?
Does the policy-maker suffer when a policy goes wrong?
I missed this when I was abroad. Glad to have found it a month later!
I definitely subscribe to this, (ESPECIALLY regarding my writing on Medium)! Folks sometimes get irked by my calling myself a “nobody,” but it’s true. And I am hunky-dory with that knowledge.
Absolutely not. Your mindset is the deciding factor in every pursuit and you have to look at obstacles as “leveling up” opportunities. When we tackle obstacles from the stand point of using it to find the answer to our problems, we become more knowledgeable and resourceful about how to achieve the main objective. Some times obstacles are placed in…
Great read, Itamar!
Love this! Thank you for sharing:) def going to check out your other work
Your story inspired me to draft up a fresh story. I’ve tagged you as my inspiration and muse!
Wishing much health and happiness, Shannon!
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The frigid ocean spray stung his face as each pounding wave spread across the boat.
Where i am heading towards and what is my goal. These two things are making my way dingy dull. Even i am not pretty much sure about that what i am doing today,is actually worth near future or not. To infuse happiness i don’t know the way of it and to transcend the life that way too is full of ups and downs.Now the point is whats the main matter…
June 26, 2018.
The wind that rocked us to sleep in the CVT kept blowing through the night…
Dear John,
Thank you for writing and sharing this beautifully written essay.
Alex,
Thank you for this energetic article! I might be able to skip cardio today…;)
I’m up at my usual time (4:30 am) to write, and when I saw another article on “How to Live” from “Personal Growth” in my inbox, so I took a moment to read it.
Just be .
As if you are in twilight zone again where you are uncertain what the future will bring …
Are you overworked, sleep-deprived, and stressed out? Unfortunately, most of us are! Which is why you need to take a personal retreat to stop, breathe, and relax. This will give your body and mind a chance to reenergize. Jim McCarthy, a Silicon Valley expert on happy, peak…
What a great cathartic exercise. Thank you for sharing:))
Couldn’t agree more. We often speak about “bleeding” on the paper. But we bleed in life. And oftentimes, no reader can know, independently of our writing. Only people that lived something similar can guess. And in those cases, few words may be enough.
Hey Kasturi, thanks for the mention 🙌
Here are some of my ideas on how to recharge in nature. Filmed at Esalen Institute, in Big Sur, California — a great place for meditation, mindfulness, yoga, health, massage, psychology, personal growth and transformation.
“Don’t worry about the future. Just take the next step.” ~Clm
I once made a girl cry.
Hope everything works out for you brother🙌🏻 keep grinding and keep pushing! Good things will come – all in time:)
Amazing read:) thank you for sharing this!
You’re thinking that you lost it, but that’s because you were only looking at their scoreboard. Keep your own score!
They thought that they could snuff out your shine by ignoring you, but your shine resonates whether they recognize it, or not!
