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Thinking things through first before acting is a sign of weakness.
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LUMPECTOMIES, LIPOSUCTION AND WTF
It all started with a lumpectomy, actually two lumpectomies, when the removal of cancer became synonymous with plastic surgery. I tend to be Au Natural girl, I don’t really like the whole plastic surgery, botox, fillers, and all of the other crap we women have been told to do so we look…
“Never ask advice of someone with whom you wouldn’t want to trade places,” is excellent advice.
I would add not to ask help from people who haven’t accomplished what you hope to achieve.
Sometimes, those who’ve attempted and failed can still provide excellent advice on what to avoid, but if someone…
Why do we sleep? What impacts can it have on your body, mind, and everything else in your life? How do we get better at sleep?
The apartment I call home smells like rotten leftovers so I step out on my balcony and enjoy the tunes provided…
“How disciplined are we?”
That question was posed by my former boss in a casual conversation with me and my co-workers about 10 years ago. We had been discussing eating habits and how our society is becoming more and more obese and in many ways, unhealthy. For…
These past three months have been intense. Emotionally, physically, mentally and…
I woke up late. Three hours later than I like to. My head felt full of damp mildewy sponges. The simple act of fully opening my eyes took at least half an hour. This wasn’t a hangover, because I didn’t drink yesterday. This was inexplicable and even more confusing and frustrating because of it.
Consistency is the greatest force in the universe. Use it! Allow me unpack this statement by…
In everything you do — love yourself through it.
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This message is for everyone, but especially for 20-somethings. What I will tell you will be both obvious and…
For my last bit of research, I thought it would only be appropriate to interview a successful business owner on their experiences in communication. I decided to interview Ed Keller, owner of Ear Q. Ear Q is a hearing aid business that has grown to have over 1,400…
Earlier in the week i read a insightful blog on steps that should be taken to strengthen your self-discipline. The blog “7 Simple Yet Effective Exercises To Strengthen Your Self-Control” by Oskar Nowik provided some very useful exercises/tips on strengthening your…
You did it again! Pulling me in to expand my thoughts.
I believe we have all gone through this struggle at some point in our lives. The exact nature may vary, but the way we come out of it normally doesn’t. We mistreat ourselves and at some point we hit our tipping point.
There was this level: Elementary and High school. I didn’t mind it as a child and in my teens. It was the thing we were ‘supposed’…
So this will be one of those scattered blogs — I just feel like I need to place my current thoughts somewhere.
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Day 4
“I wanna get the focus right.” — Moods, How I Feel
Great post as ever. I thought the same as you after step 4. Everyone should do it! I judged people and thought they need to do a step 4!! I discovered the ‘norms’ don’t need Step 4 as they can live life and cope with things as they come up. I needed Step 4, to clear the wreckage of my past that I’d left to build up whilst I was drinking and not…
The very first thing you need to do is understand what the problem is. Once you understand that, then everything after is just a simple list of steps. Why are you so stressed? Is it school, work, relationships, family, or what? Once you can narrow down…
To dangle.
And I’m not talking about a participle.
Traditionally, classic green vegetables tossed with hints of vinaigrette is prepared and brought about as a medium of cleansing the plate further, and helping digestion. Most Americans gorge into salads instantly, prologue of the main course. Nevertheless, in Europe, servers present salads after dinner (after main…
We’re all busy people. You come home from work. You check Facebook and watch Netflix…
Worry less. Live more.
The next mental habit I want to build in myself is to stop fixating and worrying about all the things that can go wrong in my life. If I identify a potential risk, I want to re-direct my mind to asking, what can/should I do to handle this. In short, it is a focus on processes over outcomes.
When In Doubt
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Hey, it’s me. I know it’s been a long time since we talked but I just need to get this off my chest.
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No more quiet desperation
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Most people are afraid of change simply because of the fact that they are afraid of the unknown or something new. These type of people do not like to step outside of their comfort zone. If you fit this description, consider trying these steps in order to create more opportunities for…
“Appreciate the big things, but remember what they are made out of…”
-Me?
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WELCOME TO YOUR LIFE. Most people live busy lives and get distracted by what others say, think or feel…
A no question society
My letter of frustration to the world.
Dear Society,
Why is it that asking questions is frowned upon? Why is asking questions in the information age seen as a lack of intelligence rather than a way of acquiring knowledge? Why is it not viewed as…
Activity Project Work
How I plan to become a better learner
Identify areas in your life which need to improve or are a contributing factor in holding you back and be active…
Be Obedient.
Many many many many times in our lives, when we feel at a low point, like we have hit a brick wall, like things just aren’t working out for us, we can trace our disorientation or our lack of success to a time in our lives where we did not listen to that little itty bitty voice inside of our heads telling us what…
It seems easy today to develop a scarcity mentality. I bet that the venezuelans who spend several hours waiting in line…
To achieve greatness, you have to be willing to grow as an individual and improve yourself. In order to grow as an individual and improve yourself, you must be willing to expand your skill set and be willing to have many experiences that can improve this…
I enjoyed your post. I was a bit like that in my 20,s . I had College, owned a house, went to night school for extra qualifications and complicated my life by being a single parent, having an unplanned but Very wanted baby girl at 21.
This is just my experience but after 2 years of getting up at 5am to get my baby to…
Your Authentic self is who you are at your core – the you, you are being when no-one is watching you – the you, you see when you look inside your dreams & see how you’re supposed to be. THAT is your Authentic self & we have to strip back the layers of bullshit that tell us we are not that person. We have to COMMIT DAILY to being the person that we…
Good post, I found this as a reminder of usefulness and importance of good habit. You wanna change the world around you , Start with a habit ☺
If your approach is not working, then you may need to change it.
“Is it so selfish to be wanted?
But I can’t make him want me.
Why can’t he love me as much as I deserve?”
I am not a commodity.
I can’t control others.
I deserve to be loved, but I also deserve to love myself.
So many gems here. Thank you for writing this piece.
Writing for me has become one of those ways to write about writing. This habit of showing up and bleeding onto a page is growing into something. And unlike school, there is no one to tell me to write.
A positive affecting affirmation to help yourself:
"I am taking action with purpose and genuine intention toward positive results and successful outcomes. I am acting toward greater benefits and greater rewards toward living a greater life. I am…
