Facesitting is, confessedly, one of the most graceful, agreeable, and salutary of feminine recreations. No…
My reality does not dictate my mood. How do I change my reality? By becoming aware of my mood and practicing gratitude.
Long ago, when working as a teller for Wells Fargo Bank, I learned a valuable life lesson — my mood…
The definition of risk is to expose to danger, harm, or loss.
“The compression of time is not a matter of compounding activities, but…
Ready for you to use in your home kitchen…
While the quote was implied to Einstein, the powerful message didn’t lose its substance till date. It can be applied to each and every aspect of life; be it for love, happiness or your professional life. Following what others do in…
If you meet some of the greatest minds in history for a small chat, you’ll probably…
Responsibility is a huge word. Being responsible means that an individual holds a duty for which he and only he is accountable. The meaning of this word is as deep as long the word responsibility is. On the…
The Martyr syndrome, also known as the victim syndrome is categorized as a psychotic trait where the person seeks pain and suffering in order to satisfy a psychological need which convinces them into believing that they are being a martyr for their own good which…
Miyamoto Musashi is one of the most skilled swordsmen in history. His teachings have been immortalized in…
My name is Gaffar, and I’m an ESNer.
For two years, from Summer 2015 to 2017, I was a board member of the Erasmus Student Network — a volunteer-led organisation that promotes and supports youth mobility of all kinds. It…
Imagine completing a 1,000 piece puzzle after a two-week effort. Relief, satisfaction and pride fill your…
How to create the conditions where you feel like you are the happiest you have ever been in your life.
One of the problems with being a disorganised mess doing unfocused busy-work all…
Have you ever had the thought to go talk to someone and then your brain immediately…
I’ve been thinking about my own approach to blogging, and making this sharable. These are some good principles to start with.
Ideologically, 2017 has been quite a tumultuous year for me. Bubbles were burst, realizations were had. But the most defining aspect of it was how it changed my opinion on a troubling topic — self-love.
We are all on a healing journey of some sort. You, me, everyone. Some of us are healing from an illness; others are healing from a major emotional blow; yet others are gathering the strength to make major life changes.
the seed
tiny petals congenitally perfect
Today’s Recovery Thought
“It takes Courage to grow up and become who you really are.” -EE Cummings
Depression might just be a result of your thinking and not an incurable illness.
“You’re not a true player until you get punched in the fucking face.” — Gary V.
Entrepreneurship is a difficult game. Just getting settled into the game is hard enough — yet I see countless people who are veterans in the game struggle every…
But, just like all the rest in the world, boredom has a dark side, and my memories of her can not only be…
The meaning of all of that, some media is the wack
As you believe it’s true
It blows me through the roof
I was reading one of 1,000,000,000 productivity articles the other day and there was…
You have reached the beginnings of my blog, a place for me to place a penny of my thoughts on…
Knowing what you need to do is critical. It requires you use “metacognition” or thinking about your thinking. It’s hard, which is why most people don’t do.
It can get easier with practice, if you make it a habit and part of your routine. Add reflection to your metacognition, and you’ll be well on your way!
AN INTERVIEW WITH JULIE TREMAINE AND THE BAY MAGAZINE
The interview below was written by Julie Tremaine for THE BAY Magazine, a local magazine for East Bay, in RHODE ISLAND. When I get interviewed, I am never quite sure of the end result, especially because I always speak my truth like it or leave it. I really loved what she…
I like reading memoirs, biographies and autobiographies. But I am more drawn on autobiographies because of the personal touch it has from the person. It feels like a storytelling to me. Maybe you have some great list you can share too. Appreciate this list too.
You make two really great points in this article. Let’s be careful, however, in attempts at motivation not to oversimplify dynamics of life.
The man whose daughter is raped and goes through a life crisis did not end up there by his desires, plans, and choices.
“We, as human thinkers, load the facts of meaning and…
“Our society values being well-rounded.” Sometimes rounded off a bit too much. Cut into the values themselves. We could make an endangered value list. Humility is all but gone. Empathy is taken advantage. Passion and patience are both beat.
Intelligence mostly makes up rocket science. Smart bombs. Not so smart nuclear…
Excellent post. In addition to prioritizing and scheduling, you should also “multiply” your time.
This is not multitasking, but actually doing two things, one of which is done without thinking, and another task that crosses multiple areas of your action plan.
This lie, which I would also extend to learning types, is also deeply embedded in our education system.
Unfortunate because is contributes to learned helplessness and defeats the noble end of educating the masses.
It’s also ironic with Carol Dweck’s growth mindset all the rage. Educators and…
By Chris Palmer, M.A.
Founder, FigureOutYourLife.com
Picture this. You just finished the call with your boss. This call was after a call with your client where you apologized profusely for a second repeat mistake. You felt a nervous edginess in your call with the boss. You did not have much words to…
Our perception of ourselves changes the trajectory of our life.
There are 74 days left in 2017. Many things have changed since the beginning of this year. I too have had my ups and downs.
This morning, I dropped into a certain coffee place near my office. I don’t go every day but these two retired dudes do. Every time I’m there, they’re there. At the same two-seat table near the window. One guy sits side-saddle with legs crossed facing away from me. The other sits…
Fall (or Autumn as we say in England) is my favorite (favourite!) time of year. The warm smells, the crisp…
Out of every four Fridays, my father would pick me up on three of them at my mom’s. We then had to drive for…
Inconsistency is a form of resistance. It’s that small thought that tells you to quit what you’re working…
One thing that employers crave is consistency. This employee consistently delivers, consistently shows up on time, never misbehaves, is regularly productive.
Many things that other people crave, we learn to crave as well.
Tick. Tack. Tick. Tack. Could time move any slower than this? Seated in a leather chair across a television set…
In todays day & age life moves FAST. What I mean by that is, most of us focus on what we are doing tomorrow, and how we…
Love. Choose Love. Love Wins. Love Over Hate. Align with Love. Be Love.
A Poem
I open my eyes wide, feel the pupils dilate. Two plump fruits ready to jump from the tree at the…
It is quarter to eight here in Austin and there’s a distinctive chill in the air. It’s 49 degrees according to the weather app and I’m not enjoying it. Fifties and sixties I’ll contend with — that’s fall crispness! Once the mercury dips below fifty…
So the fourth chapter of No Excuses: The Power of Self-Discipline, titled “Goals”, was a bit of a stinging chapter… Only briefly, and only for the fact that I should have read and written this yesterday, not today, and I’m now potentially a chapter behind. I had resolved to read both…
The behavioral patterns of a person can revel his or her emotions. Insults, arguments, fights, jealousy, intimidation, mortification, jibes, isolation, rejection, quarrels and many more factors trigger fervent and psychic outbursts. Once you place the…
A nine day journey to my limits and beyond
I cradled the tiny quail in my left hand, stroking its back with my right finger as I willed it to remain calm. One swift motion, and I snapped its head off almost too eagerly, letting the blood drain into the ground before me. Then came the methodical steps I had rehearsed in my…
I subscribe to a weekly email newsletter from Tobias van Schneider. (Which I highly recommend!) He’s a well-known…
I’ve talked about a lot of using pen and paper for to do lists. I personally believe it is the best…
This whole piece is solid, Benjamin. But this one statement holds much of the power. Here’s the soundtrack for you…
Many of us, as we were growing up, unconsciously morphed ourselves into someone our…
Don’t you just love Timehop? Most days I do, days like today it makes think hard about where I am. If…
When I was around seven-years-old, my teacher joked that you could ride a double-decker bus across my bottom lip.
I didn’t like it.
I didn’t like to hear it.
Keep the simple stuff SIMPLE.
That is seriously one of the biggest ways to conserve your energy, save time and get more stuff done.
I’ve worked very hard to simplify things in my life so that when something goes sideways, I have the time, energy and…
A positive role has brought over. Feeling a lot more potent than ever. Taking that willingness and put it…
In selling art (and all sales-based businesses), there is a technique called “asking for the sale.” It’s something I’m terrible at…
Creativity is nothing more than incorporating a new style of doing things. It is the ability…
A positive affecting affirmation to help yourself:
"I am minding more positive thoughts, envisioning greater successful outcomes, and imagining amazing adventures. I am talking for positive changes, acting for positive results, and celebrating the…
There is no perfect moment. There is no perfect instance. Now is the moment. Our lives are not determined by what have gone past, nor what comes next. It is by the very nature of now that we can live wholly. Why are we so preoccupied to recall our past, and attend the future, yet…
I wanted to start my week by taking on the task of gratitude. I tried the first day and well, it was easy on the first day but it seemed absolutely impossible on the second day! So i figured that I need to rethink my strategy.
Who created the universe? What is God like? How many angels can fit on the end of a pin? These are all meaningless infinite regression questions that cannot be answered because any reply only brings more questions.
Delaney Croft , this is what I suggest: Take your calendar off the wall of your kitchen or whatever room it is in. Take it off the wall and shred it into a million pieces and throw it in the trash.
Sit down at your desk, at your computer or laptop or whatever devise you use. And just write. Just write! Don’t ever attach your…
Or find a way to work around them.
I really like this line from your story Valeriano.
I am responsible for my actions, opinions, even thoughts.
I absolutely believe this to be the case for everyone. I have found, however, that many folks do not like this particularly and indeed think that somehow they are at fault for what they do…
“Love is the the absence of judgment"
How often are we affected by our perceptions of judgments towards one another? Thinking right now I could tell you several assumptions that I deal with on a daily basis, and I’m guessing you could do the same thing in your life. Let’s face it we…
We were not brought into this world to please anyone else. Nor to win their approval, fulfill their expectations…
Had not been following my exercise regime lately. Plus had shingles the past two weeks. Ouch experience! Hope you don’t get shingles in your lifetime. If you ever get shingles i.e. muscle ache + painful rashes/blisters, please see a doctor soonest to get anti-viral meds.
I’ve done a few things in my life that people might consider to be insane. In 2010/2011 I lived without waste for 18 months, and in 2015 I walked 3000km from Alkmaar, The Netherlands, to New York. While most of the responses to these…
He becomes serious about forming a permanent relationship with her. He pours his energy and vigor out to her with an intensity that borders on insanity because it is so strong.
The point is very much clear after reading the first chapter of book “How To Win Friends And Influence People” written By ‘Dale Carnegie’ that if you want to gain interest of people you wish for, you have to give them freedom of speech and let them talk with you. Let me tell one interesting…
10/16/17
Free write meditation
Purify Purify Purify Purify.
Literally just now as I sit in the elements only for five minutes I can feel my energy shifting. This is the way. Complete submission and rejoining to the elements is the way. It cannot be taught. It cannot be told…
Have you ever gone shopping for one thing, but end up with the other?
When I was on my early twenties, I had this smart ass, know it all, talk bravado attitude that seems so common on those leaving BSchool that time. I proudly named myself one that had the courage to speak what other people thought but would not. I felt I was fearless for doing so.
I look at my shoes and I’m just too tired to put them on. I don’t have the stamina today. I go to bed tired and wake up exhausted. I am going to start doubling up on my vitamins to see if that helps. I have already taken a nap in the sun. I love to feel the warmth from its energy flowing through my veins…
We’re all scared of something.
the new (the excitement of the new) leads to over performance at the start. the beginning is less difficult, there is no basis of…
You are bounded by the laws of physics, but I often find the truly monumental accomplishments are achieved when people test the bounds of the “impossible”.
Most people become discontent with their lives not because of the size of their goal, but because they haven’t pinned down a valid “why.”
Dreaming is great for the soul and healthy for our emotional well-being. It is the foundation of every great opportunity…
Some would say that the commercial, “Forever Chuck,” is too loud, too unique, or too in-your-face. I would argue by saying that is exactly what the commercial is meant to be. One of the first lines in the advertisement, delivered by Millie Bobby Brown, is “I want to feel…
Governments only last as long as they hold supreme power over their own people. The will of the government is law! But what do laws amount to if no one obeys them? Why pass a law if it is not enforceable? For the government to enforce its will upon the people it is vital that the people are not…
Well said Kev. I’m a Bulls fan, yet I feel the pain of the Celtics. Hope and pray for Gordon and his family.
we are more likely to fully adopt a habit if we can rationalize through why it works and why it will be beneficial for us. there is also a need in us to be able to say that there is little to no downside in adopting this habit.
Orchids
When the Devilwas a womanShe was LilithHer black hair coiledIn heavy knotsSurrounding her headLike a Botticelli ruffWhen she smiled tiredlyAt the gold bandsAnd colored stonesOn all of her narrow fingersWhen she read VilliersAnd loved HuysmansWhen she understood…
Shocked. Still lost for words.
All of our personal efforts are progressive and cumulative. Energy which we physically generate belongs only to us and can be used only by us. Our goal should be putting out intense effort for at least one half hour every day if possible. More than two hours of intense effort is too much. This should…
There is no way to “be” happy. Happiness is the way. You must change your mindset first before change (however you desire it) can follow.
