A few years ago I read an interesting New York Times article about Jeff Bezos, Amazon and the culture of working at the tech giant. What struck me most wasn’t the stories of 80–100 hour work weeks, employees pitted against one another…
Successful people have to regularly say no. This is because to reach the highest…
Growing up as a kid I never had a chance to speak in public. That was OK with me because I couldn’t…
By, Jennie SouiadeWisdom Warrior, Creative Director, Mother, Wife, Woman, Being
“shame threatens the soul. Its signs appear on the face ‘like a flash of fire.’”
Stories: The Good, The Bad and The Ugly.
Living a better life by understanding our stories.
Some people in life, have a wide range of color surrounding them, others are without it. Some use a wide lens…
It’s there in the dead of the night when all is quiet and you can’t sleep. Or whenever you are alone…
Move On Or Move On It: Stop Wasting Time And Shoot Your Shot
I am the architect of my own misfortune.
I have a friend who calls me a self-terrorist. This is a step-above self-destructive because its one thing to know what you want and exactly what to do to get it. But I don’t stop there, I take…
I’ve been thinking about what I could do to be supportive, because I’ve listen to so many #metoo…
Our bodies are not homes to our souls, just a mere tool.
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Some weeks ago, my brother lost his friend and it was very difficult for me, or for anyone, not to feel the void that someone I never knew left in this world, and in the lives of so many people as he left for an unknown phase.
I’m sitting at the airport’s viewing gallery as I write this post. Hoping that a change in environment might inspire me to write something, write anything. Despite starting a daily challenge to write 100 haikus until the end of the year, despite having full control of my…
Self-confidence is the core belief that “I can.” It is declarative in the conviction that if you wanted to do something, you are completely capable.
We’ve all seen the memes on social media cajoling us to make innovative magic happen by getting out of our teaching comfort zones. But…
I read this yesterday and had to digest it. Hank, your honesty and transparency in this post, in relation to the situation you faced is commendable. They abused your enthusiasm, ambition, talent and reputation in an extremely selfish way. They do not represent true entrepreneurial spirit; you do. I only hope you have come out the otherside of this…
I am eternally grateful to my pussy for providing me all the pleasure I would ever need… but I didn’t always feel this way.
We can attribute a lot of good to evolution. Standing up straight, opposable…
“Confidence creates a sense of security…
Enjoying your article, but I must point something out here: peak performers might reach a state of flow—which does feel almost effortless—when performing at a high level, but that is not the way to reach high-level performance.
What distinguishes peak performers from others is how many hours of gruelling deliberate practice…
Ask me this 4–5 years ago and I would say, ABSOLUTELY! I remember being in my first year of…
I put on a pair of shorts that I took to Morocco, and realized some sand from the Sahara made it home with me. I pulled my…
About two months ago i decided it was time for a change.
“Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” — Winston Churchill
I love playing video games, especially player vs player games–I love me some good competition. Anytime I find…
She wasn’t respecting me. Or at least, that’s what I was telling myself.
And I was pretty upset. What kind of person was too busy to text back a short reply? I know she’s a friendly…
I’ve received an abundance of Diwali greetings today… All with the same wishes of peace…
Easy tips for better cooking…
“Loyal to my philosophy of embracing the unknown, I picked a restaurant so unfamiliar to me and gave it a shot.”
There’s something about putting myself out there that makes me feel uncomfortable and vulnerable. Like I’m being watched…
Anxiety by definition is *an emotion characterised by an unpleasant state of inner turmoil, often accompanied by…
My dog waits. She’s smarter than I. She believes something good will come to the door. That’s why…
Every time something doesn’t go according to plan, I feel let down.
Let down by what / who… well that depends.
Maybe it’s a ‘someone’ who lets me down.
Chapter 5, or “Self-Discipline & Personal Excellence” was a longer chapter that was a roller coaster of both propaganda and insight. Five Chapters into No Excuses, I feel as though I’m taking quite a bit from this book, that I didn’t think I would originally. Namely…
I’m fascinated by the backstory of the Alexander Technique, because the founder FM Alexander’s work and teaching was hastened by World War II. This was a time of willful destruction driven by wrong thinking — how could it not influence every theory and…
Love what you guys are doing here!
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What if the commute was such a positive experience that you showed up to work (or wherever else you are…
Everybody has to be somebody
No one wants to be nobody
Dear Lovers of True Love,
What we missing is ability to do deep work. We tend to lure by low value activities which are not adding any value to achieve success in life. To be successful, you need to provide high quality product which require deep work. Deep work is rare, so more valuable.
That’s the key. You don’t stop moving towards your ultimate goal.
Habits eliminates the need for willpower. Create routines with great habits, and you’ll do the actions needed to get you to where you want to go, no willpower required.
Hey Sushanth,
Is there such a thing as long lasting love? Call me cynical but after the initial chemical/lust attraction that has always worn off for me with any relationship after 18mths at best, I believe from myself and people I know that they stay together because they have kids and a mortgage etc which is obviously the wrong reason to stay together. I have…
I ended up leaving Tokyo early morning and arrived in Manila later that evening on September 22nd.
My dad was the one who waited for me at the arrival then we just walked to where my aunt and step-mom waited for me at a…
“Once you learn to quit, it becomes a…
I don’t know what is worse— the physiological and psychological harm I inflict upon myself or the passive support of the porn industry, a world characterized by passionless sex, domination, objectification, and illusion. After viewing porn from the age of 13–22, I have realized that it…
Blog #003- “We are More Often Frightened Than Hurt”- Seneca
“We are more often frightened than hurt; and we suffer more from imagination than from reality.”…
As always your comments and responses always gets me stroking my chin in retrospection.
I think that intimacy is a funny thing in that everyone assumes if your clothes are off then you must have it… right? But, for me at least, I can remove my clothes without removing the layers of my emotional scars I hide so well. They are…
In reading through Pavel Tsatsouline’s books on flexibility and health I was struck by a powerful integration! He claimed we already have all the muscles we need but we only use 5 or 10% of what is available to us. Does that sound familiar?
How I went from a suicidal mess to a success:
When all odds are against you, stay on. Stay on when you cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel,when there is no ‘sign’ of encouragement. Stay on when they remind you you are not capable, stay on. Stay on because you never know. You never know who you will become in the…
I told myself that I wasn’t going to buy a comfy bed. Maybe I would by just a 2–3" foam topper and sleep on that…
Whatever happened to being present in the present?
It has been quoted by many for a long time, “The mind is a terrible thing to waste.” It has also been quoted, “No time like the…
I think I am prime example of a “Wantrepreneur”. I want a business idea. I want a goal to work…
I had an idea last night. It started with me thinking about my future and what it is that I would like to achieve. It ended with me…
I enjoyed this while having my morning coffee. Like you I write when I’m not working and I love it. There is a great quote by Gloria Steinem that sums up really well how I feel about writing.
“Writing is the only thing that when I’m doing it I don’t feel I should be doing…
Today I came across a review on Goodreads which pretty well sums up the notion most people have about self-help books:
This book reminded me of why I stopped reading self-help books. I found this one…
So I really like this…
Today’s Recovery Thought
The history of humanity has been a history of individual and collective self-improvements. Especially over the past couple of hundred of years, we have managed to mitigate and limit many of our primal instincts and primitive behavioral patterns…
If you’re like me, you’ve probably ran into a growing feedback loop of constant…
This series is my journey to running my first half marathon. I have…
You can never understand what someone else is experiencing until you listen and receive…
This is exactly the way to connect with people even in real life ! Awesome content !
For some reason my Adblock didn’t work today so I scrolled through my Facebook feed and saw something interesting and I need to talk about it.
There were 3–4 guys running ads on their secret about how to get rich. They were basically giving you everything most people ask for. The…
Writing a blog and publishing our stories can feel scary and extremely vulnerable. As I continue to share, I notice my…
El 19 de octubre es el Día Mundial de la Lucha contra el Cáncer de Mama y es importante recordar que el 40% de los casos de esta enfermedad se diagnostican en etapas avanzadas. Por eso es importante realizar la autoexploración, ya que se…
“It is not the man who has too little, but the man who craves more, that is poor.” — Seneca
There’s probably a lot in your life.
A lot of things:
Great post Diogo. It really resonated with me.
I studied mechanical engineering, not because I always wanted to be a mechanical engineer but because I liked the area. When the time came for me to decide on a professional career, I had a big resistance against the traditional route.
All of us were sent with almost the same resources (energy, mental abilities, brain size, etc.), but as soon as we get into the world we start making sense about how the world is and we are told by our immediate seniors (mostly our parents) about how they perceive the world and how…
Victim is a tricky word. It has implications. Just because something happens, doesn’t make…
Flying 10,000 feet above the ground is an innovation that is taken for granted. Driving an autonomous car will be also be taken…
That’s what we called a lagging indicator. Best to use leading indicators, like the one discussed in Deep Work, where you measure the amount of Deep Work power sessions.
Keep track of both, but leading indicators are more powerful because they have immediate influence on your day to day progress and your eventual output.
While I was reading the chapter 1 of book called “How to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie, It came to my mind that it is very easy to love others and become a lovable person. What you just need to do is, forget yourself! Care for others…
Amazing insights sweetie. Loved it.
Do teenagers and people who have yet to begin working professionally have the self awareness for this good advice?
The problem is we are entering into relationships before we truly discover ourselves.
I do not speak out of superiority — I picked while in college and made the same mistake myself. So…
In the world of self-help, there are many ideas. One is that a person needs to learn the basic truth of their life on their own, kind of like Cheryl Strayed in her book Wild. There is some truth to this, if you are going to learn something, especially something important, you must internalize so that the idea becomes a seamless part of who you are.
One of the most frustrating and heavy feelings in our lives is that moment when we hit a…
Applying to medical school is a long slog. From start to finish, it takes the better part of 2 years for…
At first it seemed like something that was impossible, but then it turned into a practice that works most of the times.
one of the reasons they don’t is because they have not heard of this advice. Since I’ve given it, now maybe you can help spreading it.
and if you think that’s a good advice, then why don’t you give it a clap?
thanks.
:)
We millennials exist in a world formed by social media. Social media is a powerful shaper and mark of our…
We’re all scared of failure. Failure poses a question that we’re not ready to answer…
My “me, too” moment came this morning, after a lengthy thought conversation with myself over the last few days. Most honestly, I feel like my story has been told, both on social media platforms, in the court room, and verbally amongst friends…
Thanks for the story David. I left the U.S. nine years ago on the brink of my 30th birthday. My first stop was Peru actually, for a job opportunity that I ended up passing over for a one way ticket to China. I had eight thousand dollars with me that was to see me through as far and as long as I could go. Nine years and three countries later I’m…
It took a while to realise that all of these “Top Ten Habits of Successful People” lists filling my timeline are great for each individual. But my ‘habits’ require me to first identify my own version of…
I feel like I’m drowning and no one can help me.
I have no idea what to do.
My head is spinning from the decisions I need to make
From choices I had to make.
No one is perfect in this world, perfection only came by practice and experience. We are not angles who do not make mistakes and think about negativity, each and every time satin is around us and our mind…
Somewhere along the lines, I’ve learned that a “good offense is the best defense.” Maybe it’s because I love…
Calm mindset
This reset
The least met
Exposure
Long days
The long way
Locked and loaded
Enclosure
Practicing happiness to boost your success
There were many situations in which I struggled with negative thoughts but the situation I mentioned were that time when I was newly going to IBA Sukkur university at that time the students tell me the study method of this university is very tuff marking standard is different they…
“Time is the biggest constraint. It’s more valuable to me than money. It’s the one thing you can’t…
I was just sitting down to write a Medium story about apologies when I clicked on this link from another of your articles.
Seriously, it seems like apologies are a lost art, perhaps having gone the way of formal manners in an internet and text based world.
Thank you for this wonderful and informative article kevin. You never do stop with the support. Thanks. Good work!
Sometimes the best response is no response.
Lovely read. Thank you Benjamin P. Hardy
You’re not missing out on much. Anything substantial you can wait for anyway.
I used to be a news junkie. I read 40+ articles per day. I listened to talk radio during my commute. I’ve since replaced that activity with audiobooks, podcasts, and personal growth material.
I can say I’m making a lot more progress, and my stress level is much lower.
Loved it kevin. Thanks for the crash course. I’ve been keeping up with your writing religiously, and love every single story better than the last. Keep it up brotha.
Stop for a second. Put those files down. Whether you are rushing in to a meeting or an interview. Isolate yourself to somewhere quiet for just a moment. Take a deep breath. Inhale in and exhale out. Within this brief moment of quiet surrender search within…
This is just a gentle reminder to tell everyone that it is imperative we look after ourselves both physically and mentally. It is all you have make it the best it can possible be. Don’t only train your body in the gym but train your mind with wider reading and education…
Gratitude is more than just something that religious or 'goofy' people use to save face.
It is a genuine winners' tool.
Do you know how being in a lousy state of mind messes things up and skews your…
Anytime Lacey!
Solid! This has really inspired me and it will help me power through today. Keep hustlin'
In the literature of personal growth and development, the phrase “Stepping out of one’s Comfort Zone” appears a lot. I think of comfort zone as the world you have created for yourself, consciously or unconsciously. This includes your…
John Lennon said, “Everything will be alright in the end, and if it’s not alright it’s not the end.”
Take your stance.
Get up and dance.
You have another chance,
at a new romance.
Make your move and advance,
in erotic France!
The Variable
According to Webster dictionary online. a variable is
not consistent or having a fixed pattern; liable to change.
As she takes total control he begins to suspect that she doesn’t love him, that she is just using him to get what she wants. What about those things that he wants? He has to fight these doubts and be patient with her at this time.
That back then, you were better.
It’s a thought I often have, looking at pictures of Back Then. Years ago, when I was prettier, when I was more ambitious, when I wasn’t cynical about the world and hopeful that things would be alright.
I am challenging myself as an absolute novice writer with no idea about blogging to…
A positive affecting affirmation to help yourself:
"Regardless of my challenges I am not nursing them to be problematic nor am I cursing and dwelling on them to be mentally permanent. I acknowledge and accept every challenge without rehearsal for…
Very helpful article. Meditation is amazing. I’ve tried it and it literally changed my life for the better.
Passion is the driving force behind our lives it’s what drives us and forces us to do our best in everything we do. Passion is…
Its just the right thing to do
Words Matter
The political backlash that has occurred due to a leader’s comments, which was expressed perhaps in a moment of stress and heighten emotions, has caused me to take some time to reflect on myself and my use of words under periods of adversity. As a leader in my industry, I understand that words matter. People…
I don’t know, if youWill ever, everReach love with me.I only know, that whenI think of it, my cheeks Pale, That I, with cold nerves,Could become so hot,Laugh in the glowOf your love,And break your heart.
Society is supposed to create a win-win situation for the majority of the population. It is supposed to be supportive and uplifting. What happened? Our society seems like a collection of incurable invalids! There is too much poverty, too much mental and emotional illness and not enough caring…
I do seem to be at a turning point in writing these posts. I don’t want to repeat myself and I want to remain interesting. I might even need to take a break for a few days. One of the big problems is that I believe things are really very simple and that people make them complicated! I also believe…
Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future. John F. Kennedy
