By Amy Morin
Have you ever thought that you’re not intelligent enough to do something? That you’re not as…
The absolute last place I wanted to end up was in Alcoholics Anonymous. It was, I…
“Prediction is hard, especially if it’s about the future” — Yogi…
Here we go again. That Tim Denning guy is making up phrases like self-disrupt.
I failed my first round of #100DaysOfCode in less than 10 days.
Three months ago, I went from being a highly effective organizer and coordinator at a…
One of the biggest killers to your productivity is complexity. Trying to invent…
“The trouble is you think you have time.”
~Buddha
We started with the why: the critical importance of building self-awareness to unlock the life we want to lead.
Understanding your filters is the first step in starting to build this self-awareness.
Making the Most of Your Life Now
Wisdom 3.0
A very simple paradigm shift is all that is required to change the current chaotic world mess into an authentic wisdom powered world of harmonious order. The current world mess clearly stems from a nonlinear definition of wisdom. All that is required is to change the current fuzzy definition of wisdom to a…
Last week I wrote a callous, unsubstantiated hit essay that targeted an unsuspecting DJ. At the time, I was battling with my…
Everyone has feelings of regret once in a while, even the most socioeconomically successful among…
Five more hours. Only five more hours of driving until my next destination: a rest stop near…
“When the why is clear, the how is easy”
October evokes images of colorful leaves, dropping temperatures, and pumpkin spice lattes…
Có một số người luôn cảm thấy tự tin và người khác luôn cảm thấy điều đó.
It saps your energy and self-esteem.
The generalist gets a bad wrap and sure, a lot of it is warranted. When we think of a generalist we…
Sometimes we need to sink before we swim. Sometimes we need to hold our breath and hang on through the storm with our white knuckles ready to burst from the grip. Sometimes…just sometimes, we need to become completely undone.
Often times when I do a mistake, immediately something goes off in my mind and for the next two or three days…
I don’t remember being anxious as a kid. I didn’t know what depression was. All I knew about drug…
Let’s be clear:
I remember in university and then into my young professional days, guy friends used to always say, “I want…
I’ve touched on this here and there throughout random posts of mine but I don’t think I’ve emphasized it enough…
Philosophy is a loose term that is thrown around very liberally nowadays. Every person’s definition…
Boy oh boy, have you ever stated a truth here:
“Most people perpetuate mediocrity.”
I have found over the years that many people want to feel safe, and they feel safest when the other people around them are not a whole lot different than they are. Or at least are not a whole lot different externally…
“It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan.”
First, ask yourself, “Do I really want to feel better? Am I ready for the temporary discomfort of change, even…
It’s been years since I wore nail polish. My thumbs are weird, my hands are weathered, and I have no nails.
By Noor Alkhadra — Founder of WeGeek
Self-discipline is defined as being able to control one’s feelings to overcome one’s weakness. A powerful ability to have to say the least! It’s the ability to overcome yourself to be better.
It’s pretty easy to see that liberalism simply exchanges one external authority for another. Political liberalism has made people equal by abolishing the masters and servants of the upper and lower class. While it has created the middle class it has turned it into an unruly mob…
Simple but effective!
You become like the average of the five people you hang around most.
Choose wisely!
This is the best article I’ve read un medium. Truth flows through it, like the river through our lands. Thanks!
This is essentially the “why.” If you don’t understand why you want something, you’ll be less inclined to follow through and look for solutions when things get tough.
Not easy Khac. Unless you can create real change in a company and grow the UX then you will be battling.
Thanks for the note.
Thank you for sharing your experience Sean! Anxiety and fear can be crippling. It’s inspiring to see how you were able to flip it and use it for your benefit.
I had promised myself one thing, I will write about my true feelings whenever I am feeling devastated. Mostly I procrastinated but today I feel the need to write. My mind cannot contain my thoughts anymore. My whole world is falling apart and I can’t gather enough strength to collect the pieces together.
Do daughters revel in their anger towards their difficult mothers or are their complaints…
What is a book? It may seem like a silly question, but have you ever considered what…
Yeah it’s a cracker.
You are in good company Emil. I think anytime we grow, then move into a new area we don’t know so much about a bit o this creeps in.
Thanks for the read and the note 😁
Sometimes, even the alphabet in my head become noise, especially because sparks fly igniting a million poetic words…
People have always had their way of turning the leaf of a relationship to make it favor them. We are the…
Currently the northern parts of the Bay Area are going through a horrific and destructive fire that has taken homes and even lives. This morning I gave myself time to reflect and turn to nature to find meaning in what this event is giving us.
Have you ever noticed that people with confidence seem to have it all? They have all the friends…
Brian Wong, entrepreneur and co-founder of Kiip, is wise beyond his years.
I like it. Except I have to say coding has alway intrigued me and it’s a great skill to learn.
Each to their own I say.
Cheers for the read and the note Jason.
Eye contact is very important as it shows confidence, and respect for the person you are talking to. Imagine giving someone a cold shoulder? Wicked, right? In confabulations, we must face each other to get the conversation going. If we do not…
When it comes to ‘living a good life’ it is important to recognize that there are several…
It’s confusion. It’s repressed thoughts and carefree laughter.
It’s what happened to me? And it’s I don’t want to think about it.
It’s scary. It’s pressure to label it, and fear that if you do, someone will get hurt because of it. It’s refusal to be a…
I love putting together a puzzle in my spare time, but real frustration sets in when I discover in the end that a piece is…
I keep seeing commercials and motivational posters and gurus touting the motto “Never give up.” What a horrible motto.
There are times in your life where you have to decide that continuing down a path is no longer a good idea and… you guessed it……
“Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to…
There are many people in life who have people around them who have people that support them…
Thesis Statement: After realizing I often forget the things I read every day, I…
I got out of bed at 3:30am to the smell of fire. I walked outside to my balcony and noticed the sky had a pinkish hue…
Love your innovative list. I can never shorten the list that far, but great compilation.
‘Listening is one of the most difficult skills on the planet’ said Nicole Lipkin, and I couldn’t agree with her more.
The same could be said for 44 or 74. You’re never too young or to old to make the most of your day today and the remaining today’s ahead of you.
The old adage is true.
Today is the first day of the rest of your life.
Make the most of it.
The time will come in your professional journey where you’ll have to jump out of the proverbial…
Is it just one of those days? Maybe you’re just going through the motions, plowing through emails or…
There are endless possibilities in life, each action, each step, would yield a specific outcome out of a billion other…
Very true Damien, this is a must. Test and tweak. It’s what they want and not what you want.
Cheers for the read and the note.
Herman-Scheer is exactly that: a partnership between two people. Two men, each of whom have their own lives, opinions, tastes, neurosis, quirks, preferences and everything else that makes an individual an individual. Yet, for more than half a decade now, the Herman to my Scheer and I have successfully grown our…
How writing a series in Medium is like feeding the dog:
You have to do it consistently or the dog will not flourish or may even die
I call self critique self-talk. Whenever I hear myself saying something or whenever I say something aloud, I catch myself if it’s something negative.
In place of the negative I replace it with something positive I have done and the focus on the potential solution instead of the negative thought.
Think You’ve Reached Your Limit? Here are 6 Steps to Help You Break Through.
“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly but rarely admit the changes it has…
“Here is a drawing of one of the New York Repertory Orchestra…
Do you remember when you were a kid and everything was possible? Our growing empires…
Well, here’s to one hundred consecutive days on this gratitude journey. To whoever has stuck around, thank…
I have a friend who shits herself.
😲
All interesting points Vuong. Glad you enjoyed the article. Thanks for the note.
This is pretty important. Thanks for the note Yana.
Confirmation bias is certainly a contributing factor, but there are also ways to have this work in your favor.
Above all, you should change your outlook and belief in what’s possible. If you’re a pessimist, all the negative things in life will reinforce your outlook.
When I was a boy, my parents decided we would live in Scottsdale, Arizona, that I would attend Hohokam Elementary…
It can be tough sometimes. Cheers for the read and the note Umesh Nawathe
Broken windows theory is an academic theory proposed by James Q. Wilson and George Kelling(1982) that used broken…
This is the energy that forms the essence of our soul. This energy is associated with intuitive insights and answers to questions that go beyond what is possible with the mind alone. In meditation we perceive self evident truth.
There is this quote. Don’t know who wrote it, or said it first. It goes…
if I have seen further, I have done so by standing on the shoulders of giants.
Thanks you and clap, clap, clap back 😉
Life’s Play…..A Drama
I came to realise that life is like a drama, a play. It plays out scenes across…
I started avoiding public transportation about 4 years ago. I walked to school 30 minutes instead of taking the subway for 8, I biked to meetings in the rain instead of taking the bus.
While there was nothing more to it besides me not liking public transport it was probably…
The question I keep on finding myself asking is “Why do I even care?” “Is this worth worrying about?” “Should I be spending my time on this?”
While it is quite a cynical question, it is surprisingly valuable.
This is a great strategy. I would argue though that this is essentially creating a new positive habit.
Also, excellent advice on shifting the self-talk from “can’t to don’t.” Precision in words and positive self talk is also key. If you keep telling yourself you can’t, you won’t.
Smartphone addiction. Definitely a growing problem, and one that I am seeing more and more in my practice. Here are a few more suggestions, particularly focused on problems caused by excessive phone use in couples: https://www.thenest.com/content/partner-phone-relationship
Knowledge can be a hindrance. The more we know, the more likely we’re to hesitate in times of execution.
We wander strong, like sailors with their feet..
Where do we go, one asks.
Nobody sees.
Life is unsteady, not always kind.
The only thing we do can control is our reaction, which you‘ll find.
WHAT IF Spirit/Universe/God is simply waiting for you to make up your mind on what you want and to fully…
ima read ima read ima read
While the line from Zebra Katz above is used in an entirely different context, ima take it. In the midst of intense political upheavals, a crumbling of the U.S. government at the hands of the…
Happy it was useful to you Erkan 👍
We have a collection of self improvement books here:http://toptalkedbooks.com/shelves/motivational-and-best-self-improvement-books
I battle with this one all the time. Cheers for the note Michael.
1. Honor the given circumstances. Start with what you know. If a playwright has included details about a character’s job, age, or how an experience has influenced the way he or she interacts with their environment, I incorporate that information into my…
This title comes from a bumper sticker I once saw. It means that whatever you ruminate over whether it be the past or future isn’t what’s actually going on right this moment.
If you feel that you are right to be immersed in any of these emotions, then you have lost the plot.
Cheers Jake you explained it brilliantly. Nice to hear as us writers often toil over what we do and it doesn’t always hit the mark. Cheers for the response, I appreciate it.
This is an interesting one Keri. We’ve all had our moments where this creeps in. Thanks for the read and the note 😃
Excellent advice. I journal morning and night. I’ve kept a dream journal for the last 3 years. It’s amazing what the mind reveals while you’re sleeping.
by LEFTAT50
When you’ve been Leftat50 and your friends encourage you to “get out there” and when that is “Disaster Date” territory, they remind you to “Take the Good with the Bad.” That is really a tricky way of…
This is something I try to do everyday at work. I’ve just graduated, so I’ve got so much to learn, but I’m just really glad I get to have this experience before I go off to graduate school. I want to try and work on it the next day.
If you’re like me, you may find yourself desperately missing being in school. If you’re a recent graduate, this…
Yes, some of these techniques might help some people, especially those with lesser degrees of anxiety and fewer issues arising from root causes. Yet you absolutely FORGOT to mention the value in your own “occupation”: talk therapy, and sometimes drugs to kickstart it. Why?
The most motivational lesson I got after reading Dale Carnegie book “Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain.”
I always remain out of stress in life which all due that I never complain and never thought about fear. When I read the Dale…
The greatest gift we can give another person is to be our true selves with them and allow them to be who they really are with us. There is a big difference between learning how to make yourself attractive to somebody else and falsely trying to be someone you are not because you think it will be attractive to…
Although I am not certain of the speed of refactoring in comparison to actually adding-features-coding, I think I got to touch a new personal plateau of programming speed THIS Monday! I rested on my laurels yesterday — bad of me! — something to improve on tomorrow!So I…
It may be hard to believe, but we are naturally born compassionate beings. However, in today’s world that is full of…
This story struck so hard to me as I have been dealing with same kinds of things myself. You drew what I have thought, and made me realize few very important things for myself. Thank you for that.
Great post Thomas!
I’ve just published an article about Continuous Improvement, including that “sacrifice” component in the process:
https://medium.com/@HiltonTrindade/how-can-you-take-massive-action-in-5-steps-e2034cb32766?source=linkShare-f61ba2b02b2b-1507690170
If giving birth is an initiation then being a mother is an even greater initiation. Watching your children grow up and being there for them is very powerful. Every woman dreams of being a good mother to her children.
Teapot placed over the stoveEmotions overflow, I hear the whistle blowAm i weak?Over heated, burning, loud noises But, I’m in silent…
Again, another very interesting and thought provoking prompt. I went through three…
This is Thanksgiving weekend, so enjoy the fall flavours, while spending valuable time with family and friends. This…
A positive affecting affirmation to help yourself:
"Loving this life through the amusement of my education and experiences is how I am thriving! Loving this life through the joy of my growth, learning, and adventures is how I am thriving! Loving this…
I love your city of clarity! In my early days I was asked do you want to be happy or right? Obviously I said both lol 😂 Now it’s happy every time! Acceptance is the key, great post! You’re spot on you are responsible for your own happiness, to be truly happy alone is an admirable thing I thought I’d never achieve, I was always surrounded by friends…
New #wordoftheday “Embrace”
“Embrace your inner being”
#innerself #innerpeace #innerthoughts
Fear can and will paralyze dreams and hopes at any time. Fear of failure. Fear of the unknown. Fear of change. Even fear of success and what it may bring. We naturally do not want to be move out of our comfort zone because of just that, its comfortable. Why would I purposefully go and do something…
Today’s self-empowering communication to positively affect yourself:
Repeat with me: I AM SUCCESS EVERY MOMENT!
“I am taking the next step to progress, the next step to accomplish, and the next…
