In the words of my favorite erotica writer Anais Nin: “We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.” And what better part to relive than our sex-lives?

I do love writing about sex and sexuality, but it wasn’t until I sat down to complete this list that I realized just how many stories I’ve published on the topic since I started here in October 2019: N̶i̶n̶e̶t̶y̶-̶n̶i̶n̶e̶ one-hundred-and-eight so far (updated 11.02.21)!

I write about sexuality, not just for my own enjoyment, but because I believe it’s important. I believe we must normalize having an open, honest, and candid discourse around something that, despite being the most normal thing in the world—we’re all here because of it—is still such an uncomfortable, taboo topic for many. I believe in the importance of women and females speaking LOUDLY about sex. While precaution and safety are essential components of good sex education, I want to see more conversation about pleasure, why we should expect it, and why sex is good for us!

Without further ado, here’s a catalog of ALL of my sex stories, articles, guides, columns, poems, and tidbits—all neatly categorized and in one place:

Guides, Tips & Advice

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Why Men Who Master Sexual Self-Restraint Are So Irresistible
Delay gratification to blow her mind — and double the reward

Why I Am a Such a Good Lover
And all you need to know in order to become one

Be Better in Bed!
Seven steps to sexual prowess

Is Anal More Intimate ‘Regular’ Sex?
Why I won’t let ‘just anyone’ into my most sacred of spaces…

There Are Right And Wrong Ways To Kiss
Screwing it up might be ruining ‘your game’

This Is Where You’ll Find Good Porn
Hint: You’ll have to pay for it, which is how we get good porn in the first place

Want to Squirt? First, Learn to Let Go!
How I learned that squirting is only one part technique

My Friend, the Squirting Expert
Interview with Sam (34) who shares from his well of knowledge and experience with female ejaculation

The Secret to Enjoying Anal Sex
It’s all about preparation

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Better Communication = Better Sex

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Why You Should Talk About Sex on the First Date
Knowing and communicating our needs is the safest way to make sure they’re met

The Most Important Thing I’ve Learned From Dating in the BDSM Scene
Hint: It isn’t how to be a ‘good girl’ or to give a proper spanking

First Dates With People Who’ve Already Seen Me Naked
A case for sharing your sexual preferences — and your nudes — with a potential new partner

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Oral Sex

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If You Were to Lick My Pussy
You could try a little sumpin’ like this…

If I Was to Give You the Best Blowjob
I’d do a little sumpin’ like this…

If You Don’t Lick, You Can Suck It!
How can you be her lover if you’re appalled by a part of her?

Blowjob Dos & Don’ts
How to give a better blowjob

Tips & Tricks for Better Blowjobs
Four heads-up on how to give great head

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Three & More-somes

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How To Be a Third in a Threesome: A Unicorn Guide
“Be a unicorn in a field of horses”

The Fears That Kill Your Threesome Dreams
Four common threesome scares and how to overcome them

A Case For Sleeping With Your Friends
Sex doesn’t always complicate or change things — at least not for the worse

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All About Pleasure

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Can Masturbation Screw With Your Orgasms?
Masturbation can be a double-edged sword. Here’s why.

Meet Circlusion; Penetration’s Other Half
Two actions reliant on each other — circlusion emphasizes the value of both acting in harmony

Edging the Orgasm Gap
Let’s fill it with the truth

Nobody Owes You an Orgasm!
Pleasure is not “give and take”, but something we create together

How The German Love for Being Naked Has Helped Me Accept Myself
There’s nothing inherently sexual about nudity, and learning to separate the two is key to a more relaxed relationship…

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Relationships & Dating

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Why Observing Her Cycle Is One of the Most Romantic Things…
Skip the flowers and sync up with her tracking app instead

How Cloning Our ‘Privates’ Boosted Our Confidence
My boyfriend and I made casts of each other for fun-but it did a lot more than making us laugh

Writing About Sex When Your Lover(s) Read It All
The unexpected gains of baring it all online

Consent for Sexting and Why We Need It
Never put anyone in a sexual scenario they didn’t agree to be in — even online and in writing

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The Exhibitionism Edition

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A Survival Guide for Successful Outdoor Sex
The Seven Principles of Leave No Trace rewritten: Minimum impact practices for sex outside

Exhibitionistic Sex Is All About the Thrill
The throes and titillations — the wheres and hows of public sex

My Four Most Fabulous Sexcapes in Nature
Stories and tips on how to elevate your wildest adventures

I’ll Expose My Body, but My Pleasure Is Private
Why I won’t receive oral sex in public

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Sex is Healthy!

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Sex Is The Most Powerful Medicine
Up the dose on this natural super drug through times of crisis
All the positive effects that sex has on your mind and body

“Constant Sex Kills The Coronavirus”
The piece of fake news that might have a sliver of truth to it

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Food + Sex

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My Favorite Course is the Intercourse
How and why food and sex are related

Turn Dinner Into a Delightful Debauchery
Up the ante on date night: A not-so-innocent dinner idea

Personal & Erotic Shorts

There are so many similarities between sex and storytelling, the two are intertwined. I love telling sexy stories may also be (at least a bit) educational too.

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This Happened To Me

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My Sexiest Highlights of 2020
Twenty lustrous gems that brightened my twenty-twenty

Sex 2.0
The story of how I leveled up from ‘vanilla monogamy’ and entered ‘next stage’

Do You Squirt?
The story of how I found out

My Best Friend Lent Me Her Lover
If sharing is caring, the two of us care a lot!
I was horny, she was not, so she sent her man to my place as a treat.

I Posed Nude for an Artist on our First Date
“Draw me like one of your French girls”

The Time I Had My Cake and Ate Her Too
Ménage à Trois with a cherry on top: A recipe of sorts
Or… the time I made my best friend into a birthday cake and devoured her with my Master

My First One-Night-Stand Was With Two Men in a Sex-Club
The time I ticked off a whole sex bucket list in a night

An Ass-Master Stole My Heart
A story about anal sex, and my (attempted) polyamorous slave-Master relationship

The Boy & The Cougar
The morning I fulfilled a fantasy I didn’t know I had

He Didn’t Make Me Cum, so I Made Him Leave
The guy who came ‘too fast’, and left even faster

My Sex Bucket List
Make my naughty wishlist come true!

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Erotica

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A Lighted Window at Dusk
An erotic two-hander on longing and other obscure sorrows

Penis Envy
An erotic tale of powerplay and gender identity in a lesbian relationship

Dinner With a Vibe
Sir takes (the remote) control in this buzzing erotic short with a sweet surprise

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The Connection Between Sex & Storytelling

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Can You Write Your Way to Better Sex?
Why good storytellers make more attractive lovers

The Best-Worst Fantasy Someone Sent Me
With feedback, comments, and guidance on how to improve your sex/storytelling skills

The Good-Bad Girl and the Bad-Good Guy
What I sexted as a response to the worst fantasy ever

Kink & BDSM

I’ve been exploring and practicing various aspects of BDSM over the last few years and find it deeply cathartic, even healing. BDSM is, therefore, near-spiritual to me. Besides, few things have provided me such self-awareness; it has helped me understand myself, my wants and needs, and to communicate these clearly.

A Beginners Guide to BDSM
BDSM is, to an extent, about pushing boundaries, but it’s not a competition

The Higher You Fly, The Harder You Drop?
Understanding ‘post-play drop’ in BDSM and what causes it

What is Aftercare?
One of the most important elements in BDSM

How To Find The ‘Perfect’ Play Partner?
A reader suggested we write a piece on how to find the perfect play partner. After some years in the BDSM scene, I’m…

No, You’re Not Normal (But Who Is?)
Being normal is the only thing that isn’t normal

My First Time at a BDSM Club
Or, how not to visit a BDSM club

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Domination & Submission

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How to Be a Powerful Sexual Submissive
Not your regular submission guidelines

So You Think You Can ‘Dom’?
The step-by-step guide to sensual domination.

Is Submission an Excuse to Be Lazy in Bed?
The active role of the ‘passive’ part of a D/s dynamic

Can We Learn How to Be More Dominant or Submissive in Bed?
Are our kinks and sexual roles inherent, or can they be adopted?

How to Outsmart Your Dom
Ten things (not) to say to drive your top up the wall

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Pain, Spanking, Sadism & Masochism

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The Relativity of Pain
Understanding why sensation is often circumstantial

Your Pain, My Pleasure
Discover the alluring links between pleasure and pain

This is How I Want You To Spank Me
The fine art of spanking someone into a state of euphoria

Healing Pain With Pain
How reclaiming my pain through BDSM became my remedy

The BDSM Tools You Didn’t Know You Owned
With some creativity, your home is already a well-equipped dungeon: A budget-friendly DIY-BDSM guide

My Friend, The Buddhist Sadist
An interview with Marco (35) — not your average smiley Buddhist

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Shibari, ropes & bondage

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Tie Me Up to Set Me Free
How I experience being bound and suspended in ropes

Why We Love Rope
Riggers and rope models share what Shibari means to them

A Love Story in Ropes
SPNKD’s rope teacher on his journey; how he got stuck and later untangled, and how ropes have tied him and his wife…

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Various Kinks & Fetishes

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What if I Do Want You to Spit in My Mouth?
Does that make me a freak?

Worship My Feet!
A love note from a toe tease

Scare My Pants Off
The interplay of fear and desire

Take My Breath Away
Edge-play: Choking and breath play in BDSM

What Is Needle Play, and How Can ‘That’ Be Sexy?
I tried a kink I never thought I would. Here’s what I learned…

How I Found out That I Have a Knife Fetish
When you know you have nothing to be scared of, fear can be an aphrodisiac

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Theoretical Kink

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The Ego, Shame & BDSM
Can humiliation lead to healthier egos and better mental health?

Is Kink the ‘New’ Thing?
Proof that our grandparents were kinky too

Yes, Kink is Childish — And That’s a Good Thing!
Unleash your inner-child and play your way to better physical and mental health

Sex & Spirituality

“When we touch the place in our lives where sexuality and spirituality come together, we touch our wholeness and the fullness of our power, and at the same time our connection with a power larger than ourselves.” This quote by Judith Plaskow outlines my mission as a sex writer: Through my work, I want to assist others in finding the place in their lives where sexuality and spirituality meet.

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Alchemy & Transmutation

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Blazed & Defused
Sacred morning bliss recounted

Elemental Desires
Sexual alchemy — a spell

Sexual Alchemy: Water
The one who filled her cup

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Energy Work

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Create With Your Libido — Fuck With Your Creativity
All of our vital energy spring from the same source

Transmute Energy With Chakra Masturbation
A guide to sexual alchemy through mindful self-pleasure

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Religion & Patriarchy

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For the Love of Christ
Escapades of a former Jesus freak who went from preaching to perversion, and took the Holy Son along for the ride

Father Thinks I’m a Satanist
After finding my ‘nudes’ on Instagram

Sexual Politics

“Everything in the world is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power,” said Oscar Wilde and I couldn’t agree more. Further, politics isn’t always sexy, but sex is always political, and that, more than anything is why we must talk about it!

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Sex-positive Feminism

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Let’s Call a Cunt a Cunt!
And, let’s not perpetuate the usage of a perfectly good word for one of our body parts as an insult

I Used to Slut-Shame — Now I Am One
Embodying the true meaning of the word has made me whole

Let’s Stop Getting Penetrated and Start Circluding
The power of language in sex and why words matter

Stop Shaming Me for Loving the Deepthroat!
There’s no right or wrong way to give a blow-job

Wait, You Want to Pay Me How Much to Step on Your Balls?
What I learned from an offer to sexually ‘torture’ someone for money

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Motherhood

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Are You Allowed to Be a Mother and Also Love Sex?
Confessions of a ‘slut-mom’, and how I learned to embrace myself as a whole woman

Congratulations, You’re a Smoking Hot MILF!
An award acceptance speech

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LGBTQI & Identity

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I Just Found Out I’m a Heteroromantic Bisexual
Grappling with the complexities of bisexuality and the value of labels

I Kissed a Girl (And, Yes, I Did Like It!)
Response to a 100-word writing challenge on the first kiss

Hot & Sensual Poetry

A collection of poems and other sensual short-form texts

Let Me Be Small
A poem the paradoxical healing effects of power play

Ode to The Master
A poem from a muse

Algolagnia
From Greek, álgos, ‘pain’ and lagneía, ‘lust’ — a sexual tendency defined by deriving sexual pleasure and stimulation…

Un-chained
A redemption song

The Smell of You
A poem that lingers

Your Dickpic Turns Me On
Better the dick you know than the dick you don’t

April Fools
A poem about public sex and lies

Strike Three
A spoken word poem

(Im)permanence
A morning contemplation

That’s it for now, but worry not, there’s plenty more to come. Thank you so much for reading and stay warm my sexy friends!